It’s still the beginning of the year, a lot of people are either setting their goals or reviewing them. I asked someone this question recently after talking for awhile: What makes you happy?
You should be able to answer that.
Happy Valentines Day everyone!
This is my favorite holiday because it’s all about LOVE & being kind. Take the extra step to be thoughtful to everyone around you, ultimately that’s what Valentines Day should be about.
I tend to support single people during Valentines Day, because I think they bitch the most? Like, I’ll stay in with my bottle of wine & The Notebook & cry myself to sleep style. BUT this time I’m coming after people in a relationship. Because, when you’re in a relationship for a long time, little gestures can get lost & Valentines Day can end up feeling dumb? Single people – you’re GOOD on Valentines Day. The possibilities are endless, I used to love this holiday when I was single, read this post: HERE.
You know the CRAZY part about being in a relationship? The amount of time you’re choosing to give someone besides yourself. When you spend every day with someone, sleeping next to them, waking up next to them, making decisions with them, creating a family with them, living with them – in a way, you’re choosing to dedicate your life to them. Think about it. Because if you recall, we only have ONE life. How intense is that?
I started thinking about this because I often hear people bitch about their significant other. Often times joking, sometimes serious. This typically happens after a few years together, right? The fucking dishes, the annoying friend, the job. At my age, it’s typically deciding about taking the step to marriage, or once in a marriage it’s about the pile of other conflicting situations that come up. But at the end of the day, we have one life. When we’re in a long relationship, we’re choosing to lay down next to the same person every day, for years & years. We’re giving our lives to each other. I can’t think of anything more significant than that, in our entire lives. Or anyone more important to get along with. Your kids will come, but they’ll also go create a family. Your own family will do the same. Your friends will come & go… But damn, that one “person” you lay down next to every night will be laying down next to you forever. They’ll be there when people come, and they’ll be there next to you when everyone goes.
What a commitment. And what a journey.
That makes me realize bitching & moaning about little things is pointless. Worrying about small annoyances shouldn’t matter. Let it go, let it go. We should be gentle with our partners, we’re giving them a humongous part of our one life. You know what I mean?
For anyone that hasn’t had a chance to read my old posts, below are a few of my favorites from 2017! Enjoy!
Dating A Muslim Immigrant… During The “Muslim Ban”
Tis a sign of the times… I love this post because, Wafiq. What an interesting time it was. We happened to just be finishing our own immigration journey during this time & learned TONS of immigration info we never knew before. Which I think is why we were super comfortable. Even though people were freaking out. I remember we were happy, lucky & together 🙂
2018 is on it’s way! Lets set goals, shall we?!
No.
No we shall not.
I thought a lot about this. The big, long-term beautiful (somewhat vague) end goal is always in sight, but all the others change. I love it! I welcome change, even though I fear it. As ideas & goals shift throughout the year, you create new agendas & updated accordingly. Which is why, now that it’s 2018 & resolutions are all the talk, you shouldn’t feel pressure to make them.
I’ve learned one of the worst things you can do to yourself is lose your own trust. Disappoint yourself. I know any goal I set on Jan 1, 2018 will end up changing, therefore I’ll end up disappointing myself & losing my trust. Which is a big no-no. So, fuck the 2018 goals.
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