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Life Chats: MissBassmaster Gone Missing

“You have this one life. How do you want to spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating yourself? Dieting? Running after people who don’t see you? Be brave. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. Take risks. You have this one life. Make yourself proud.”


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My favorite day of the week has turned into Wednesday’s because I’ve somehow managed to get myself addicted to Survivor.  I haven’t watched the series since the first season but have come full circle, watching again.  I love competition, but that is one show I would never want to be a part of!

The Real Hosuewives of Atlanta really had me hooked as well.  JUICY. I have never wanted to be a part of a group of friends more in my life. They are the baddest.  And I’m addicted.  I can’t turn the show on while Wafiq’s home because he can’t stand the yelling, but I sneak it in when I can.

I have so many super exciting posts coming up but I’ve stalled a little because I have a Web Designer working on my website… I want MissBassmaster to to be functioning & professional, and I am not good enough to get the job done myself so I’ve finally found someone to help.  Editing & working through the new site has taken a ton of time so I haven’t been as present on MissBassmaster as I want to be, but I REALLY believe it’ll be worth it.

Hopefully this will all be done in a week or two.. or three! We’ll see…

In the meantime, I’m only going to post a few times a week  & spend energy creating more!

I thought I’d fill you in as there may be a chance someone looks forward to my posts & notices they’re not happening as often.  I have not disappeared or slowed down… Just making things smoother!

Have a fantastic day & be thoughtful

Xx


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Making Friends, Having Friends, Maintaining Friends

“If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.” – Thomas Jefferson


Making friends is like finding a boyfriend.  It’s not easy.  Especially if you’re looking for a good friend & you’re not a smoking hot professional cheerleader.

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Like a boyfriend, you can date a lot of people & be pretty happy, but finding that one good one is hard.    Same with friends.  You can have a lot of them, but finding those really good friends that you love like family is hard to find.

I’ve never been the girl with a long list of friends. I wouldn’t be the one with 20 bridesmaids or 1,000 people at my wedding.   There’s a huge part of me that has always been envious of those people.  They were able to cultivate friendships from high school & college that stayed with them their whole lives.  I love that & am honestly impressed & a little envious…

 

I’m the one that could stay at home 99% of my life, only to go get food & walk my precious angel dog, but other than that I’m good to go at home.  I remember the one thing that hurt my feelings the most, from 2 of my ex boyfriends, was when they said I don’t have any friends.  AH!  In context, it wasn’t meant to hurt my feelings, it was immature boys trying to get away with hanging out with their single friends all the time, which I can understand – but hearing them tell me I have no friends was so fucking embarrassing.  Because it was a little true.  Since then, I’ve done better at making friends & am now a little more outgoing, because I have to be… But if you have no friends, don’t worry. I’ve apparently been there, twice.

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So, meeting people has always been something I work at.  I’ve been super lucky in the sense that I’ve had a few really  awesome friendships in my life that showed me how important friendships are.  Some helped me grow, some challenged me, some helped me worry less, some helped me be more confident, some taught me a lesson.   Because of how much each friendship helped shape me, I know the value good friendships have.

The whole reason I’m putting this post together is because I started hearing people talk about friendships.  Maintaining friendships that were once strong but are going through change.  Looking for new friends that are easy to be around & share similar values.  Keeping or making friends that have similar interests come Friday night.  And simply the cycle of friendships.  It’s a weird topic to bring up because we’re adults & how do you start talking about friends? Sounds elementary.

When we’re kids we have friends that like to play hop scotch & jump rope together.  That’s pretty easy.  But when we’re older, shit gets a little more complicated than jumping rope.  In a good way, you get to actually talk.  Have interesting conversations.  Build each other’s character.  But everyone is growing into their own lifestyle, opinions, locations, and families.

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Because friends are similar to boyfriends, I think they should be treated the same way.  You have to work hard to find the good ones, and then work to maintain them.  Sitting inside, living within your routine, won’t bring new people into your lives.   That doesn’t happen.  You have to be available, by getting yourself out there.

And once you find a really awesome human being that you get to call a friend, you have to make sure to maintain the friendship.  Give. Appreciate. Listen. Evolve.

Right?

And let a relationship have it’s cycle.  Maybe it’ll go up & down. Someone’s busy, or going through a phase, or growing apart – Let that happen for a little while.  It’ll come around.   (That’s for friends, not boyfriends HA!)

What I figured out was that you can’t get comfy.  You have to work at getting outside your routine & what’s normal.  And like I said in my Money post, this doesn’t mean go out & spend money.  Go for a walk, go to the park, go to the beach, go  on a hike… Get creative!  You don’t have classrooms with new students each semester, so you have to get your ass out there & open up to finding people.

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As much as I would love to say Wafiq, my mom, and my dog are the only friends I need – I realize without good friends we’re still missing a whole other element to living.  So don’t get stuck with you dog, or cats, or partners.  Even though I would die a happy person & be very comfortable that way, I know there’s more!

Making friends sucks, but having friends makes it worth it.  Take on the week ready to mingle like you’re single!  Or maybe you’re both, get your boyfriends & friends all in one week!

Have a fabulous new day & be thoughtful,

Xx


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“Be Like Garth Brooks” – 5 Tips For Being Positive

“Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

~ Groucho Marx


I’m not a super fan of country music or even Garth Brooks music so don’t be afraid I’m going to lay out all my country obsessions for you.   A few weeks ago I was able to see Garth Brooks in concert during SXSW. I’m not familiar with his music, I realized at all, but that didn’t matter.

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Garth Brooks had the most incredibly positive attitude I’ve ever seen in concert, and in life.  Happy, laughing, loving, humble.  Whether or not that’s how he lives his life doesn’t matter to me because the energy during the concert radiated through everyone watching, even if you didn’t know his music.  And what a gift to give that feeling.

I want to make people feel like Garth Brooks does.

And you should too.

Why not make people feel good?  Why not give them a positive day?  We’re able to do that.  It takes worrying less about OURSELVES & more about our surroundings.  Even if Garth Brooks was having a shitty day he was able to be positive enough for his audience to feel good, and I imagine that attitude can also change his shitty day into a good one.

And it wasn’t only via music, which can also make you feel a certain type of way.  The happy feelings came from him, his energy, his conversation, his appreciation, the way he treated his band, his overall attitude.

We can all be like Garth Brooks you guys.  Imagine walking around, making everyone feel like they’re going to have a great day?

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There were two Uber drivers that did the same thing for me.  I had a 5 minute interaction with them but my entire day changed.  I still remember each of them, our conversation, and the feeling I had when I got out of the Uber.  And I’m not typically someone that loves conversating with Uber drivers (*cough*cough* Wafiq).

If you’ve ever met this type of person, it’s something you shouldn’t forget.  Take notes.  Because these people instantly make you feel comfortable, they have such a gift!  I imagine they lead a really positive life, always seeing the glass half full, and because that’s their lives it radiates in their everyday interactions. Every single time I run into these people I desperately want to pay it forward.

I consider myself a positive person, but I want to do better.  I want people to leave conversations with me, feeling my energy.  Feeling the positivity.  This is also why it’s so important to keep negative people away. How can you stay positive when you constantly have people with a negative attitude around you?

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5 Tips For Being ‘The Positive Guy’

  1. Treat People Well:   Garth Brooks adored the hell out of his band.  He took plenty of time to showcase each member of his band & their talents, hobbies, attitudes, and families.  It feels good to see people treat people good.  Simple.   When you see a husband treat his wife with respect, love, priority & care – you feel good.  You know what I mean?  To be around others that treat “their peeps” well, gives you positive energy as well. It makes you want to treat your peeps the same way.

  2. Smile:  This is very easy & something I make an effort to do.  Mostly because one time I was at the lounge in The W waiting for the bathroom and these two extremely gorgeous girls walked by glaring at me & I felt so upset afterwards.  What did I do?!  When I came out of the bathroom I asked Wafiq to make sure I’m always smiling.  Even to the meanies.  I don’t want to glare at people or look sad or angry – I want to look happy & positive.  Trust me, it makes a big difference. Those girls went from 10’s to 2’s real quick.

  3. Pick your people:  Like I said, being around negative people makes it a constant challenge to remain positive.  As easy as positive energy can make you feel positive, negative energy can do the same.  Surround yourself with positive people & you’ll see how easy it is to be positive yourself. And if you don’t have any friends, or positive people in your life right now – keep searching until you find them 🙂

  4. Don’t Play Victim:  A hard one for everyone!  And similar to my Listening Post.  Nothing errks me more than people who are constantly trying to make you feel sorry for them.  Don’t be that person.  Don’t project YOUR stress from work, money, relationship, life onto other people.  Think about others.  Every single person has their own struggles & battles.  You’re not unique.  You’re not special.  Unfortunately, we’re all going through something we could bitch about.  So, be grateful for what you have, act like you are, and send that energy out into the world – even if you had a  bad day.

  5. Let Go:  I’m always preaching this one to Wafiq & I happen to think it’s something I’ve mastered in the past year or so…  If you have a bad day, bad situation, bad conversation, woke up late, car broke down, ran out of money or anything else that sucks big time – Let. It. Go.  None of that shit really matters in the whole scheme of things.  Time is going to pass by and you’ll never remember it happening.  So don’t let it effect the people around you, because that can ruin someone’s day, and it’s not worth it.  The important thing is to let it go, deal with it and forget it.  Don’t let it seep into conversations, your attitude, your energy, your smiles.  LET IT GO.  I think this is the hardest for most people, but I would argue the most important.

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Whenever Wafiq or myself starts having a little negative moment we’re quick to say: “Be like Garth Brooks”.  LOL!  Better than saying: “You’re being an asshole”.  Right?!  Whatever works guys.

Being positive sounds normal & easy but it’s a lifestyle. And a choice you have to make everyday.  You either live with the intention to be positive or not, so lets work on it! Let’s make people feel good!  Why not?!

Be like Garth Brooks today & as always, be thoughtful

Xx

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Life Goals: Packing Light

I’m going to New York this weekend – Ouiiiiiiiii!

Wafiq’s sister is traveling to New York, so we thought it would be a fun weekend to meet up – Stay tuned.

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TODAY I want to discuss packing.  How do you guys pack for weekend trips?  Except for the past 7 months or so I was living out of suitcases – A LOT.  (It’s really interesting how all of a sudden items are so much less important.)

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Packing is a pain in the ass.  If I’m going somewhere for less than 7 days my goal is to fit it all in a carry on and be smart. Less is more.

(Wafiq’s motto: More the merrier…)

Similar to my cleaning strategies at home, the same is true when I travel:  The more you have the more you’re weighed down. The more decisions, organizing, and thinking you have to do when you’re getting ready every day.

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Here’s a couple tips for my weekend in a carry on:

Plan your outfits:  Google the weather before you go. Know what to expect and plan accordingly. Think layers. And be realistic. If it’s going to be 40 degrees and you’ve been living in 100 degree weather, you ARE going to be cold – You need a jacket.

Make-up Palette’s:  Don’t bring your entire make up bag with the Halloween glitter eye shadow. I bring one palette, with a couple different products and I’m good! Make up palette’s pack wonderfully.. Think – eye shadows, blush, highlight – whatever you got goin on.

Shoesies:  Don’t travel without a comfortable pair of shoes!!!  I go with basic white sneakers because they shine bright, super comfortable, and go with everything! I would even try wearing these to a nice dinner.

Hair:  I don’t wash my hair very often, so I need a little baby shampoo bottle and I’m set. I also don’t style my hair very often (hello messy buns), so having a huge ass curling iron + fancy blow dryer + flat iron + hair spray + hair products is not necessary. If you rely on those item’s, try to pick your favorite and leave the rest behind. It’ll be a fun adventure.

Backpack:  This took me forever to figure out. A backpack is the best for traveling. EW –>  Carrying a bag/purse on your shoulder is one of the most annoying travel problems in the history of the traveling world.  A backpack is comfortable, cute, and convenient + it gives you some extra room to pack.

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Who out there is a professional carry on travel packer?  You’re my idol.  I would love to hear your tips.

I should also mention, if you’re traveling to a shopping hot spot then pack the amount of items that would fit in a carry on, but possibly bring the checked in bag instead…  Then you can shop freely, never asking yourself if it’ll all fit! JOY JOY JOY!

Ok, off to dream of New York now.

 

Xx

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Overlooked and Oh So Good, Date Night Ideas

Welcome, weekend. Please come any time..

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P.S. Has anyone found that sneaky little devil SUGAR hiding anywhere? If so, spill the beans!! Save us all!!!

As I plan my Saturday evening, I wanted to give you guys two overlooked date night ideas.

Wafiq and I have had our ups and downs and overs and across’s the past couple years with traveling/money/moving/deciding/thinking/ the list goes on…

What we always try to do is find affordable, fun, date nights. Wherever we are. And nothing over the top.  Because, dinner date every Saturday night = > Blaaaaah.  Not only are dinner dates a little boring if they’re done consistently, but we also notice they’re easier to ditch.

Would you rather stay in and watch a movie?”  “We cook better food ourselves anyway”  “And it’s expensive” “Then we have to get ready” “I will if youuuu want to” “but I already said, only if youuuu want to”

The excuses start flowing like water down a rapid river.

SO. Two underrated, surprise Saturday Date Night ideas:

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B O W L I N G     &    M I N I   G O L F

You know, the activities you begged your parents to do when you were 7 years old?  Those activities are actually fun, even as an adult. TRUST me.

Admitting you’re going to the bowling ally as a 20 something year old for date night does sound a little old lady.. But honestly, worth it! And F*** it anyways.

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If you can get past the thought of wearing bowling shoes instead of heels to date night, and focus on the experience you’ll be having.. You’ll see the adventure is worth it.  Bring some fancy socks + a killer outfit and you won’t even know what shoes you’re wearing 😉

Same with mini golf. Do you know the photo ops at most mini golf courses?! So romance! Slap on them fake eye lashes and show off all the skills you learned as a 7 year old golfer.

Give it a try! (Let me know any other easy peasy date nights I need to try. We’re up for anything!)

A

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Xx MissBassmaster

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5 Things You’re Grateful For Right Now

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I mentioned this a looooong time ago and I always wanted to wrap back around to it because I know I didn’t give the idea enough attention.. and I definitely wanted to.

5 things you’re grateful for R I G H T N O W !

When I was living in Dubai, doing this saved my life.  Probably not really, but it felt like it at the time.

The idea sounds small, and simple but it’s a game changer in having a positive day, and a positive outlook 🙂

Whenever you’re in a strange mood. Whether that means you’re angry, hormonal, sad, nervous, anxious, exhausted..  Say 5 things you’re grateful for out loud.

(And yes, the out loud part is an important part of these instructions)

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I challenge you to say 5 things that you’re grateful for that have meaning in that moment. Rather than saying: “I’m grateful for my dog. I’m grateful for my house. I’m grateful for my shoes. I’m grateful for my TV”.

Put some meaning behind them: “I’m grateful I was able to wake up early and do my workout so I feel better throughout the day. I’m grateful I spoke to both of my parents at lunch today and they sound so happy. I’m grateful my dog had a stellar vet appointment that didn’t cost as much as I was expecting.  I’m grateful the sky is clear blue and the air feels so cozy. I’m grateful I don’t have to work today.”

You get the drift?

**In case you didn’t get it the first time –> Say them out loud, even if it’s a whisper to yourself, say them out loud!

If you’re with a friend or dog or partner, you can each do 5 things you’re grateful for and you’ll notice the energy will quickly lift. Smiles!  Even Wafiq liked doing this. Eventually he would bring it up.  We’d be in the car on the way home from work and he’d say, “Let’s say the 5 things we’re grateful for right now”.  <—- Awwwww.. Because it makes you feel good! Simple as that!

Give it a try! #gratefulrightnow ! ! !

 (* Let me know how it goes)

XxMissBassmaster

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Yours truly, MissBassmaster

We’re here!

February!

Woooooooooooooo freakin hoooooooooooo!

(February: Not that spectacular) BUT..

With very little rhyme or reason Miss Bassmaster is back.  I found that blogging is something I really enjoy doing, but I wanted to do it with more of a purpose.. Which, if you remember, I was having trouble finding. I hate when people ramble on and on and on and on..  I wanted to make sure I didn’t do that, even for myself. I took a break.  Read other awesome blogs for inspiration.  Caught up on The Bachelor and Jessica Jones, also for inspiration. Built a fire, to prove I still can.  And started a “real job”, because supposedly that’s what adults do.

And now I’m feeling ready, serious, and large + in charge!  Slowly but surely I’m hoping to get on a schedule with posts and be consistent.

We’re taking things to the next level!

I’ve been busy working, playing, eating, and dreaming… All of which I want to share. Because slamming down garlic cloves fermented in honey, without telling anyone, is barely worth the adventure.

So lez do dis.

Xx MissBassmaster

Yours truly, Missbassmaster

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My Sweet Sweetness Bernice

Look at that face!

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I told myself before I moved out of the United States that I wouldn’t blog about my dog, Bernice, until I could write that she was with me. I would put a photo of us happy and together.  Unfortunately, being reunited with my little girl didn’t come as quickly as I was expecting, and enough people started asking me where she was that I felt I could no longer ignore the inevitable update post.

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I want to start by saying Bernice is my daughter.  I don’t know what it’s like to have a human child, but Bernice is the closest thing I can imagine. I didn’t have any family in Austin, and I lived alone. Bernice was my one super loving constant. Friends, boyfriends, jobs, people, acquaintances, money, apartments, everything always changed. But no matter where I went, who I was with or what I was feeling, I had my goofy girl Bernice.

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People used to tell me that getting a dog would be more of a burden, being single and always busy, a dog would be too big of a responsibility. But it was the opposite, and having responsibility is a good thing. I would choose not to do anything I couldn’t bring my Bernice to. When I had to work, she got to play at a babysitters house. By far the best decision I ever made in my life so far was getting Bernice. So as you can imagine, leaving her was a hard thing to do…

BUT I told myself, people have to leave their children all the time.  It can’t be easy for them, but they do it… So I convinced myself Bernice would be okay without me for a little bit. As much of an adventure for me as it would be for her. And I was right, this little dog is so happy with my parents.  I skype and get videos sent to me of what she’s doing… I’m sad, but she’s in happy land. She has 2 other dogs to harrass at all times and she gets to play in the snow with a nice big yard everyday. Snow being her new found toy. (And Minnesota doesn’t appear to be getting rid of it anytime soon?!)

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Always hungry. Like mother like daughter ;)

Always hungry. Like mother like daughter 😉

So why hasn’t she come to Dubai yet?  I would bring her tomorrow if it was up to me. I wouldn’t wait. But I’m trying to decide what’s best for her. I want her to travel as little as possible, so I want to make sure I’ll be in Dubai long enough to make her travel worth it. Which for me means, I need to find a job I can picture myself in for awhile… Then I need to get a place to stay I can see my sweet Bernice comfortable in, after that I’ll bring her. It could be a month, it could be the end of the year. I have to think about what’s best for this little creature and go from there.

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But don’t anyone worry. We’ll be reunited eventually.. And I’ll annoyingly ask to bring her everywhere I go….  Attend dog parks far too often… And baby my Bernice embarrassingly in front of people again in the future. And I can’t wait for the day I can tell you about it 🙂

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PS. My parents probably hate that they are long term babysitters, but what would we do without them!?!

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I LOVE Valentines Day

Valentines Day is the greatest!

What gets better than a day to remind people to say I love you?! And show people you care about them. And remind yourself to tell them more often…

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I know Valentines Day critics argue that Valentines Day is a “Hallmark Holiday” but I say who cares? You spend money on drive thru coffee every morning, happy hour at the bar after work, and a fancy gym membership you don’t use the gym for… What’s the big deal in buying an extra flower at the grocery store, or even making your own card, or giving someone a big humungous uncomfortably tight hug.. heck even a surprise smooch on the lips if you’re daring!

Valentines Day is a fantastic day. I used to hate it because I never had a boyfriend. All Valentines Day meant for me was a romantic day filled with surprises from your smoking hot boyfriend that probably included flame throwers, latin dancing, and vacation getaways. In my dreams.

It took time but I changed my way of thinking. I realized Valentines Day can be much more than the cheesy romance. If you’re single, which I have been many years of my life, it’s a day that allows you to really appreciate your closest friend… and dog.  And appreciate that that’s sometimes better than a relationship  😉

No matter what day it is, I believe we should use Valentines Day to remind ourselves throughout the year to stop and look around at all the people we care for and make sure we tell them. Parents, BFF’s, boyfriend, wife, grandma, doggie, fish, homeless person, children…. They all need a little lovin, so we need get out there and tell them!  Valentines Day, thank you for being there and reminding us of this 🙂

Cheers!

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