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How To Wear A White Dress – Mistake Free!

Did You Know? The theory for the fashion rule to wear white after Memorial day started at the height of its popularity, the color white signified upper class and refinement. You wore white at summer resorts and society events, while the masses wore drab colors as they labored away. “By the 1880s, in order to tell who was acceptable and who wasn’t, the women who were already ‘in’ felt it necessary to create dozens of fashion rules that everyone in the know had to follow…That way, if a woman showed up at the opera in a dress that cost more than most Americans made in a year, but it had the wrong sleeve length, other women would know not to give her the time of day.”

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YAY! ALL WHITE EVERYTHING!

I love wearing white. The color is fresh, clean, young and classy.  I feel like white is a perfect color for any occasion and is definitely a go-to for me.

I used to fear white.  I either risk my outfit getting dirty (hello spray tan) or wearing a fabric that was see through & revealing of all my precious undergarments.

However, I fear no more! Mostly because I don’t care if either of those accidents happen, but also because I’ve mastered avoiding them.

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How I Wear White, Mistake Free:

Start with the White Dress:

I wear white shorts & pants all the time, but dresses are also an easy option.  To avoid anything see through or too revealing go for a flowy style or a piece w/layers. I avoid maxi dresses that are white & super long because that’s more fabric to get sabotaged by dirt or stains.

Add Bright Shoes:

The fun part about white is that it matches everything. I’ve been known to pull out my hot pink heels when I wear white because the pop of color adds dimension, if you ask me.  It takes away from concentrating too hard on the dress.  If you’re trying to be a little more casual, white also looks classy & pretty with a nude shoe.

And A Bright Lip:

You’re either doing a bright lip, bright shoe, or both!  This lip stain does NOT move.  Once it’s dry, you really don’t have to worry too much about getting it on your outfit. And a bright lip really pops when you’re wearing all white. I love that combo on anyone!  OoOoO la la

Classic Gold Jewelry:

Subtle gold jewelry, tan skin, and a white dress?!  Yes!  To keep it smooth & classic, go for these skinny chains. Subtle, but the perfect detail for pulling all the pieces together.  I realized when you add a simple piece of jewelry it shows effort. HA! I used to always skip little jewelry, too lazy.

Oil Up w/Avocado Oil:

This one & my next are the biggest secrets.  I’ve been using Avocado Oil as moisturizer lately, it’s not very greasy & soaks in the skin just right.  I would typically recommend a bronzing lotion because I’m obsessed with fake tans but when you’re wearing white that can be a little risky.  Avocado Oil will shine perfectly on your bronzed skin to help you glow – without risking stain.  I put oil on any skin that’s showing!  Also, if you have a spray tan, make sure you do 1 day & 1 shower before your big white moment.  That ways the tan is super stuck on your skin & won’t make your dress brown. You get it.

Never Skip the Highlighter:

The key to life throughout the summer? Highlighter.  Who doesn’t want to glow?! I put it on my shoulders & collar bone, if they’re showing.  It really helps everything POP!

And Finally, Makeup:

Less is more when it comes to wearing makeup while you’re wearing white! Especially if you’re in a hot weather area where make up tends to slide after a while.  There’s nothing worse than foundation marks on your fresh white clothing, right?!  That’s my nightmare, looks cheap & high maintenance to me.  So, I do my face routine that I do for work days – concealer, highlighter, maybe blush & a little bronzer, then my eyes.  But that’s it!  You don’t want to risk touching your face & having the product transfer to your clothes.


Welcome Memorial Day & the summer heat! Welcome! Today, I walked outside my apartment & actually had a hard time breathing because the humidity & heat was so thick it felt like I was breathing under water. (Dramatic?) Anyone else feel me?! NOT a hot person, most definitely dreaming of a thick snow storm.

Also… note, Last Man Standing was canceled. I found out the news yesterday.  I’ve only watched the entire season through about 4 times on Netflix so I was really depending on fresh, new seasons to start soon. Anyone have other light comedy sitcoms to share?  I’m totally open to cheesy.

Have a great weekend everyone!  Be thoughtful,

Xx

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The Best Sports Bra to Hold In Your Ting Tangs

Did You Know? Women simply don’t have the genetic potential to develop bulky muscles. They don’t have sufficient amounts of testosterone — the hormone largely responsible for the development of muscle bulk.

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If you’ve ever struggled finding a good sports bra that isn’t $1,000 then you’ll understand this post.  I played sports a lot when I was younger and have always enjoyed running or working out so a sports bra is an essential part of my closet.  I don’t care if they’re cute,  I care that they hold my ting tangs still.  I HATED the times I’d be wearing a bra that wasn’t strong enough & my ting tang’s bounced around for everyone to see during my runs.  UGH, also so unflattering. Oooga Oooga Oooga. Just no. No. No.

Victoria Secret sports bra

Classic Black (HERE) // Pretty Nude (HERE) // Zip Front (HERE)

This reminds of the time Wafiq & I were hiking this very popular hill in Los Angeles and we saw this woman we nicknamed: “Dagger Tits”.

 She came plowing down the hill, full speed ahead.  Super athletic, marine woman – confident.  Wearing a very little, ocean blue, Yoga style, triangle bra covering each of her areolas.  Unfortunately, her small breasts went up & down so severely it was if they were each a gun being shot off in an old western stand-off.  Pew pew pew pew!  Cutting the air like a sharp blade.  Pointed. Up, then down, then up! Then down.  We cringed in pain.  We may lose a breast here.  That is one of the many moments I can use to advocate the importance of a strong sports bra.

Anyways, I doubted the Victoria’s Secret sports bras for a long time because they’re cute, they claim to be “push ups, and VS is not known as an athletic company.  Not the formula for nailing down the chest.

Until recently when I needed new sports bras & I was totally unhappy with what I had.  I knew there had to be better & I could only hope at an affordable price…

Because I found this Victoria’s Secret sports bra for $35 I thought – fuck it.  Why not give it a try, better than spending tons of money on another one that might not even work.

Well, lets thank the heavens because this bad boy holds your ting tangs STILL.  And the bra is cute, comfortable, AND affordable!  I went back the next day & bought 3 more.  I’m not sure what girls with little chesties will think, I’m sure that’s an entire different situation – but if you want something to hold everything in, this is it!

Side note, the bra’s with the clips on the back like this one: HERE, can dig into your back a little if you’re doing something laying down.  Not awful but if you’re sensitive, take that into consideration.  Don’t worry, there’s also options where the bra clips in the front, like this one: HERE.

If you’re having trouble staying motivated for your work outs try buying some new workout gear that you’re excited to wear.  It sounds silly but really makes a difference.  It makes you really want to get out there & work hard! Feel good.  Look good. Workout good.

That’s it for my Monday!  Off to celebrate my dog learning to fetch me her Kong for peanut butter treats! OUI!

Have a great day, and be thoughtful,

Xx

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Three Wish Worthy Easter Dresses

Did You Know?  67% of Millennials and 56% of Gen Xers prefer to shop on online rather than in-store.

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Happy Monday!

I made the mistake of trying to go shopping recently & immediately regretted my decision to skip shopping online… Ughhhh… is anyone else online only?!  It’s so much easier than parking at a mall, going into a crowded store, digging around for your size, (and most recently) dealing with the hottest dressing room of all time!

So, I’m back to strictly online shopping & spent the weekend looking for Easter/Spring looks.   Spring is my favorite because I get to wear flowers, pastels, lace, pink, dresses – everything that runs through my blood.

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Three Wish Worthy Easter Dresses:

Natasha Ruffle Bodycon Dress

I like dresses that can multi-task.  Something that I feel like a girl in but can dress up for a sexy little night out or dress down for a casual day at brunch.  P.S Nasty Gal’s inventory is always changing & with their sales you can count on finding budget friendly options.  (Similar: HERE)

White Garden Party Maxi Dress

Works for Easter or any day this Spring, right?  I’m not always about the long, flowy, maxi dresses because they’re so loose & allow too much room to comfortably eat – several days of that in a row will add major pounds to my waistline without even knowing… But I think one really pretty maxi for Spring is manageable.  (Similar: HERE)

Jumpsuit with Frill Peplum in Scuba Crepe 

If you haven’t noticed from Instagram, I would wear a jumpsuit every single day.  I bring my dog with me everywhere I go, even places that are a little more formal – so I prefer wearing something a step up from my workout tights.  Jumpsuits allow me to manage the dog without showing my hoo-ha, & look decent.  (Plus, I’m loving hot pink… always.)


Have a great week everyone!  I’m about to start the Last Man Standing series on Netflix for the 3rd time in a row… It’s too funny & I hate to admit, has possibly tied New Girl for my fav shows. I watch the episodes over & over & over… & over. Wafiq hates me.

Enjoy your day & be thoughtful

Xx

 

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College. Don’t Do It!

Did You Know?  Student loan debt is the second highest form of debt in the U.S., second only to mortgages. Around 75% of student loan borrowers have delayed buying a home because of their debt & over 40% of borrowers have delayed starting a family because of their debt.

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COLLEGE – DON’T DO IT!

Let me explain.

Going-To-College

As I was growing up, teachers, parents, grandparents, cousins, graduates, & friends all stressed the importance of having good grades to get into a good college after high school.  That was the only option for anyone who wanted to be successful.   That’s why we worked so hard in high school, so we can go to college.  Because who doesn’t know what they want to do with their entire life at 18 years old?  And if you didn’t know, you can take classes until you find out.  “If you don’t go now, you’ll never go back!”

I’m not sure how this path was drilled in everyone’s mind because it doesn’t make sense to me.  I think for the generation before mine, college carried more significance than it does now.  It actually meant something to have a general, liberal arts, communication degree.  At least you had a degree on your resume.   And because it meant so much then, it only makes sense that you wouldn’t want to miss out on it now.

But times have changed.

Going To College

After graduating college & applying for real life jobs, all the openings required several years of experience.  A degree didn’t matter, they wanted someone who has been in the field for years.   Searching through job applications today is the same story: experience, experience, experience.  When I met with a job recruiter, about a year ago, she sat down to look at my resume & saw my degree listed on the weeee bottom line & asked if I actually received it, when I said yes, she replied “Ok, I’m just asking because if you didn’t we can just take it off… It’s not a big deal.”

Big deal?! My family & I just paid 1 million fucking dollars for this degree at the weee bottom of my resume & you’re saying it’s not a big deal if I leave it off?!

I wasn’t surprised.  I already knew the degree wasn’t what employers were looking for, but hearing her confirm my thoughts stabbed me in the gut.  Not only was I hoping the million dollar degree would help me land a job, but I was assuming I would also find a job that would make the money spent on school worth it.

Going To College

College WAS the best decision of my life. It paved the way for my future.  Not because of the education, but the choice to leave home & grow up.  I went from shy to strong.  From self-conscious to confident.  From scared to brave.  From 1 friend to 3.   I consider it the best & most important decision I made so far in my life.

But the truth is, I thought that was the only option for me to go out on my own.  I thought it was college or stay home.  So I had to make the move to college, because it was the only option & I’m glad I did.

That’s also why I wanted to share this post, because there are other options.    All the money you’re going to spend on college could be invested in yourself.  Your own business or ideas.  Travel.  Experience. Life. Work.

Going To College

I went into college, failed fucking math & took the Communication degree.  Here’s the deal, I didn’t know shit about finances or business so math was impossible.  These days, I’m reading books about money, entrepreneurs, taxes, business – all things I wish I would’ve studied in college because now I actually relate to them.  I can understand them beyond just taking a class & simply digesting information.

I don’t think college is smart.  I talk a lot of shit about college.  But, if you know you want a career as a doctor, or scientist or engineer then you need college to fulfill your career.  You can’t follow that path without the education.  BUT, if you question your choice whatsoever or don’t know what you want to do, why go spend a ton of money on a path you’re uncertain of?  Take time off to work, travel & learn about yourself.  Move to a different state.  Take an easy going job that you enjoy.  Party.  Date. Order a ton of books off Amazon & start educating yourself for .99 cents.  (because Amazon is the shit like that).

Then, when you’re older, and happily have a savings account without millions in student loan debt, and you know what you want to do & how to get there – go back to school.  If that’s the path.  School’s not going anywhere & maybe someday it’ll actually be affordable.

Going To College

I should also mention, in other countries the college degree holds a very high significance.  They don’t care what degree it is as long as you have one.  I noticed that in Dubai, so as soon as I was regretting that expensive piece of paper I did have a moment of gratitude, otherwise I don’t know if I would’ve been able to work while abroad.  Do I consider the degree worth it for my stint in Dubai? Not really.  But it doesn’t make me feel as bad about the whole situation either.

There are SO many ways to be successful without college today.  Education is at our fingertips in more affordable & accessible ways than ever before.   If I’m the only person that’s saying this, then I’m glad to do so.  You DO NOT have to go to college after high school.  You are likely smarter than the people who do.

 

Have I fallen off my rocker or are you with me? Thoughts?

 

Welcome to April! Go out, skip school & be thoughtful!

Xx

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5 Things I Can’t Go A Day Without

Did You Know? 68% of the people suffer from Phantom Vibration Syndrome, the feeling that one’s phone is vibrating when it’s not. ( v i a )


I love investigating peoples routines & what they do every single day, meaning they’re obsessed.  For a long time that was Target for me.  Not a product, but a place.  I went to Target all the time & it was the one thing I desperately missed when I was out of the country.  I’ve gotten it together since then.  (*Amazon Prime*)

But of course, there are still products you use every single day that you can’t go without & those are the secret’s I need to know about!

Below are mine…

5 Things I use Every Day

5 Things I Can’t Go A Single Day Without:

1. Coconut Oil:

I’ve recently started experimenting with other oils as moisturizer, which I’ll update on later, but I still use coconut oil every single day in the kitchen.  I love the taste it brings to a dish.  I use it as oil when sautéing, mix it in my oatmeal for breakfast, or give my little doggie a spoonful as a treat.    I prefer cooking fresh meals as often as possible & coconut oil goes right along with that – I use it for everything in the kitchen & I love that it doubles as a use for pretty much anything else.

2. Hair Clips:

I can’t go through an entire day without using a hair clip.  My entire life I’ve had long, thick hair which I’ve loved but have only been able to manage with a tight ponytail.  I started hating the huge line mark that a tight  ponytail was making so I made the brave switch to hair clips & haven’t looked back.  I either: 1. Half dry my hair & twirl it into a bun, securing with a clip 2. Pull half my hair up once wearing it down has had its moment  3. Clip up when I get out of the shower when my hair is still wet.

Keep in mind, hair clips give your hair room to move so you’re less likely to have breakage.  And I should note, I currently do not own a curling iron so the only way I achieve any volume or curl is by wearing my hair in a bun w/a clip all day or overnight.. When I let it down, BOOM – curls.

3. White Shoes:

They’re too easy.  I wear these either letting my dog out in the morning, at work, after work, a quick run to the grocery story, the beach, with a fancy dress for a night out… Shit, I’ll wear them with anything, anywhere.  I buy a new pair OFTEN because they’re so affordable & there’s nothing better than clean, bright white shoes.

4. Moisturizer / Chapstick:

Cannot survive a day without my moisturizer.   I’ve always had super dry skin & I’m pretty much always trying to hold a self tan, so a moisturizer is an absolute MUST.  The past year I’ve been using my oil of choice & this Tepez Cream.   My face is super sensitive & will break out if you look at it incorrectly, so I’ve tried TONS of products that haven’t worked.  Oils & Tepez Cream never let me down – but I’m still looking.  Anyone have a fantastic moisturizer or eye cream that pumps in moisture they swear by?!  I’ll send you a thank you note if you tell me your secrets… Seriously.

And of course I carry chapstick everywhere.  The one place I NEED it daily is next to my bed.  I smear it on before I sleep and it moisturizes my lips all night long so I wake up fresh.  I can’t fall asleep without it.

5. Huge Sunglasses:

Even on a cloudy day I’m wearing sunglasses if I’m outside (or in a bright room?).  I can’t stand the strain on my eyes from squinting.  Once you realize how much huge, dark sunglasses helps your eyes you’ll never be able to go a day without them.   {They also come in handy when you’re super hungover, at the grocery store, buying frozen pizza, and run into your ex boyfriend.}


When I think about the things I can’t go without, these come to mind.  I feel like each of them serves a purpose in my day to day functioning, including my $15 H&M pants I was wearing in my recent Instagram pic.  As long as I have these items, I’m good to go, ready to conquer the world!

What products can’t you live without?

Have a great week & be thoughtful!

Xx

 

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3 Sassy, Affordable Online Stores & A Few Tips for Shopping Online

Did You Know?   Could 2017 be the end of shopping malls?  JCPenney announced Friday that it would close up to 140 stores in the next couple of months.  That follows decisions by Macy’s & Sears to close a collective 218 stores in the first half of the year. Other mall-based stores including American Apparel, The Limited, Bebe, BCBG, & Payless have also recently announced that they are shutting down all or most of their stores. ( v i a )


I feel like I’m giving away my biggest secret here… You know I’m obsessed with online shopping, specifically Amazon.  I literally buy everything off Amazon, I’m currently waiting for Banana Nut Cliff Bars.  When I have conversations with other Amazon addicts I get hot & heavy.  Really spikes my heart beat.

Favorite Online Stores

Since this discovery I wanted the same freedoms for clothing, mostly because my anxiety is the devil & going into shopping malls is hot & overwhelming – at least all the shopping malls near my house feel that way.

Enter, the following websites… They rescued me from overwhelming shopping malls that are always too hot, full of people, the pretty clothes piled up on the floor & long lines in fitting rooms.  Nastiness.

Wafiq is proud to report I haven’t dragged him into the mall in ages!  WOOT WOOT!

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ASOS: Here

1. Asos

Asos is the go-to clothing website for anyone & any style.  In college, I used to find the most affordable dresses possible – whether for Saturday nights or weddings, and my budget was a powerful $10.

Now, I use Asos for the variety of styles & accessories the website has for both myself & Wafiq.    What makes Asos different than the other 2 websites I go to is the variety of brands, which you can see in the range of choices.    There’s something for everyone!

Some of my favorite brands that I find on ASOS:  Miss Selfridge, River Island & ASOS Brand.  They also have an awesome unlimited 2 day shipping policy for $19.99/year!

Favorite-Online-Stores

Wedding, prom, or a casual Saturday in Sequins? Windsor Store: Here

2. Windsor

The only thing I don’t like about Windsor is the shipping.  There’s never free shipping for budget shoppers! You know those annoying specials: “Spend $3M, get free shipping” ?! What!? No. I want to spend $19.99, only!

BUT, I love pretty much everything else about Windsor.  They’re constantly changing their inventory so there’s new pieces being added all the time.  I ordered a gown for the wedding we attended in Mexico & I couldn’t have been more impressed.  The dress was affordable & fit like a glove.  Because of the price I was concerned it would be poor quality but I was pleasantly surprised, as I have been with all my orders from Windsor.  LOVE LOVE LOVE!

Favorite-Online-Stores

Sassy T Shirt Dresses? Missguided: Here

3. Missguided

Missguided’s inventory goes on for days x days.  I use Missguided when I want to look… sassy?  The outfits have a little more flare & sex appeal – Oh lala-ness?!  You’ll get what I mean when you scroll through.

They also do collaborations with bloggers & fashion designers every once & awhile which makes a fun & affordable adventure down the fashion isle.

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Online Fashion Shopping Tips:

  • Watch your favorite websites for sales. Scan through a few of your favorites when you first get online & see if there are any big sales happening << sometimes they’re very random clearing inventory

  • Sign up for mailing lists! This is not an annoying Spam situation, it’s great for the heads up on super sales or free shipping opportunities

  • Free Shipping, always a great idea << Find this opportunity & pounce!

  • Read sizing reviews to find what fits you.  Several online stores now offer sizing reviews for each item of clothing available for purchase.  A great example of this: Lulu’s.

  • Check out the return policy before buying so you know if it’ll be easy to return, if need be

  • Pay attention to expected shipping times!  I’ve ordered items online that have taken 2-3 weeks to receive, which feels like an eternity when I’m used to Amazon Prime.  Plan plan plan if you’re relying on your order

Favorite Online Stores

Online shopping is the best kept secret, if you don’t know where to start it can be overwhelming & you’ll want to surrender to the shopping mall.  But then you’ll be in zone Forever 21 for life!

Once you discover the world of affordable online shopping – you’ll grow into a wonderful adult woman & you feel fashion forward… even if you aren’t.

Having said that, where are your go-to online shopping spots?  Share!!

Be thoughtful today,

Xx

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Understanding An Asshole & How To Deal w/Them

Did You Know? In 1962, there was an outbreak of contagious laughter in Tanganyika, Tanzania. It began as an isolated fit of laughter among a group of schoolgirls, but rose to epidemic proportions spreading into neighboring communities. The outbreak lasted for six months & was so serious that schools were closed. ( v i a )


Dealing with an Asshole

There are a few types of assholes that exist in the world:

Assholes that maintain a steady level of asshole at all times, or an asshole that only cares about themselves & absolutely nothing else, or a wealthy asshole that’s degrading & objectifying, or an asshole that has ZERO ambition, or an asshole that doesn’t listen – ever, or an asshole that thinks they know everything about anything, or an asshole that’s asexual because no one deserves their precious parts.

But today I’m addressing the assholes that swing far & fast. Swinging assholes. When you meet this type of asshole they’re super nice, bubbly, generous & welcoming. But in a split second they can turn into a fucking wicked, twister destroying miles & miles of city in seconds.

We’ve all met one.

Understanding an asshole

Dress: Here // Similar: Here & Here

Last week I observed one of these assholes in true form. They were nasty, aggressive & destructive about something minimal – but it was their trigger. Enter: TWISTER. All cities & communities torn down.

Ewwwwwww.

I met this person several times before & he has always had a welcoming persona of extreme kindness & generosity. But he also comes with a whispered warning to walk on egg shells around him because at any moment he can snap. You know these?

As I saw this person the following day, we made eye contact. There he was, charming his way through a conversation with a fellow female, but for a mili second I saw sadness in his eyes.

Understanding an Asshole

Maybe I imagined it, but this is the result – I think people who have extreme mood swings don’t understand themselves. Being known as both the upbeat, generously kind person AND the person who can flip into a ramped twister with the flick of a light switch is frustrating even for the asshole. I don’t necessarily think they want to be mean, they haven’t figured out their own emotional responses to certain situations & are deep down embarrassed.

To deal with this, the asshole kisses ass after a rampage & sweet talks their way into a place where they hope everyone will disregard their unfathomable outbreak. Which usually works because people around them fear triggering the rage into come back, (which I believe actually enables the asshole, but that’s another post.)

This is in no way validating the asshole, they’re still a huuuumongous fucking asshole, but I decided understanding them should help the innocent (Ha!).   The innocent that are unfortunately around the asshole during these outrages shouldn’t feel personally attacked or offended, even if there was a mistake on the innocent’s end.

Remember, the asshole is having their own mental rage they can’t figure out, and it has nothing to do with you. You don’t have to react, or be okay with it, or try to make sense of it – because it doesn’t make sense. The asshole doesn’t even understand!

Understanding an asshole

And let us admit, there are times it’s impossible to ignore a swinging asshole, which is why my tip is to walk away. No matter what or who the asshole is.

Even if you’re at work. Exit the email, walk out of the office, hang up the phone – no one in the world has to listen to irrational raging, under any conditions.

I’ve seen & been a part of this scenario so many times & people around me always try to make sense of it as a way to help me feel better. “Ignore it” “Don’t take it Personally” “That’s just how it is”.

Whatever.

I suggest >> You. End. It. That’s the strongest move to make!  Because we’re made to believe exiting a situation is weak, I think it’s actually incredibly strong to walk away. Leave it. Bravery babes, bravery. This is an awesome tool to have.

A swinging asshole has their own emotional frustrations they can’t understand & you’re likely not a paid psychiatrist so it’s not your problem to solve or emotional baggage to carry.

I’ve noticed understanding them has made it easier for me to walk away, WITHOUT carrying anger.

I’m hopeful you don’t have to run into many assholes in your life, if you choose wisely you likely shouldn’t. In the case you run into a swinging asshole, I hope this talk through helps you feel like you’re not alone & we have your back.

And if YOU are actually the swinging asshole, there’s hope for you too. First, recognize. Second, ask a counselor about your feelings.

Understanding an Asshole

There we go, cheers to avoiding assholes! Nothing like that to welcome a weekend!

If anyone has any great asshole stories to share, please do. We’re in this together!

Have a great weekend, and be thoughtful…

XX

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A Lot of Lovin in Monterrey, Mexico

Did You Know? During traditional Mexican weddings, the bride & groom are linked together with a Lazo to symbolize their joining in love and trust.  The Lazo is placed by sponsors either around the couple’s necks, shoulders or wrists.

The placement of the Lazo occurs during a special wedding prayer, after the bride and groom have exchanged vows. The couple wears the Lazo throughout the remainder of the service and the couple keeps the Lazo as a keepsake. ( v i a )


Fitting in perfectly with the theme of L O V E through February, I went to a gorgeous wedding in Monterrey, Mexico last weekend.

Monterrey-Mexico

Love exuberated over the entire evening, from the church to the reception to the dancing.

The best way I can describe the night was being flooded with emotion, in a way that stuck with me for a few days.  I looked at the bachelor’s around me & you could see a sparkle in their eyes throughout the evening as well, you literally couldn’t help feeling a deep love throughout the entire wedding.

What perfect timing for an experience like that.

Monterrey Mexico

Monterrey-Mexico

The couple was stress free, focused on each other, mature, unbearably excited, and authentically themselves and that radiated to the guests.

I’m still a bit speechless.

Monterrey Mexico

Monterrey-Mexico

Dress: HERE

 

Monterrey Mexico

Monterrey Mexico

As far as Monterrey, I’ve never been before.  A few friends of mine have family from there so I was excited to put a name to a place.  I love traveling to locations that carry meaning.

Whether a small town in Mexico where friends grew up or Amsterdam where I was able to visit the Anne Frank Museum which I dreamed of being able to do since the 3rd grade.

Giving myself purpose behind a trip adds spice.

Monterrey-Mexico

Having said that, it was raining & cloudy most of our trip. We were looking forward to visiting the mountains and walking through the parks but the fog was pretty low.  STILL, we made the most of it.

If you follow my Instagram you’ll notice we managed to meet an Egyptian man selling eye lash glue.  I made myself as high maintenance as humanly possible & went on the hunt for glue to pin down my fake eyelashes.  Real winner girlfriend here.   After struggling through Spanish to explain that I was looking for eyelash glue we received scribbled down directions, also in Spanish, to a market down the street.  These are the moments Wafiq falls in love with me, a Scavenger hunt in the Mexican streets at night with super white American blonde chick, real adventurous.

 Monterrey Mexico

After many corn stands & wrong left turns, we arrived at a huge market with thousands of standing booths inside.  The Lord himself directed us to a booth with Arabic writing on the top.  DING. DING. Eyelash glue.

Wafiq noticed Arabic and started speaking with the man running the booth while I jumped around the market with joy over our accomplishment.  The gentleman managed to leave Egypt 7 years ago, then married a Venezuelan woman while living in Mexico, and now they have a 2 year old Mexican child.   Tons of culture in one conversation.  I think he felt bad for Wafiq & decided it was imperative I take the eyelash glue for free.

Monterrey Mexico

 

Hotel: Here

 

 Monterrey Mexico

Monterrey Mexico

Monterrey Mexico

Monterrey Mexico

We ate tons of great food, drank WAY more tequila than I thought my body would tolerate, and I managed to survive yet another plane ride.

I definitely want to visit Monterrey again & am needing suggestions.  I want to go back & find the prettiest churches, the most delicious foods, and the best views – any advice will be appreciated.

 Monterrey Mexico

Have a great weekend, get outside in the fresh air and as always, be thoughtful 🙂

Xx

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Single or Taken, Ways To Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Did You Know?  According to an Ipsos poll conducted on behalf of Netflix, movies and television shows are the top two icebreakers for a first date. Show-compatibility is important, with 13% saying they would ask someone out based solely on mutual interest in a TV show. ( v i a )


Valentine’s Day is for everyone.  I fucking love February.  The red, pink, white, with flowers, hearts, wine & chocolate?  Hallmark Holiday? YUUUUUUUUHSsss please!

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Around this time of year I start hearing Valentine’s Day haters, so I swing opposite – I’m a Valentine’s Day ride or die lover.  I know I say this every year, but having a reminder to verbally express how much you appreciate or love someone is important.  I know people don’t do it enough, because it’s impossible to do it enough! We’re stuck in routines that create tunnel vision unless we have moments that break us out. Enter >> Valentine’s Day.

Seriously, it might be my favorite holiday.  And I celebrate all month.

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Valentine’s Day, when you’re Single –

Being single for Valentine’s Day might be better than being in a relationship.  It’s very unpredictable.  I spent many Valentines Day’s single & I had a fantastic time. The chance of having a date with someone you just met, celebrating with your precious doggie, appreciating a close friendship, taking time for yourself to watch Netflix << All options sound like a fucking dream.  There’s nothing like being single, you have so much freedom to make choices for yourself & Valentine’s Day is a reminder of that.  YOU can decide how you want to love YOU.  On a first date, watching movies, or hanging with a friend? Your choice.  Relationship peeps have to stare at the same face they had dinner with last night + the added pressure of making it special (HA!).    Give your friends a little Valentine’s Day love by bringing them a cake, or a new bracelet, or sparkly shoes. I love giving my girlfriends little gifts & messages.  Valentine’s Day is the time to be a little cheesey & buy some cute, shiny gifts.    Love is most definitely not only between two people in a relationship, it should be spread to everyone.

 

Valentine’s Day when you’re in a Relationship –

GO OUT TO DINNER.  No one does this on Valentine’s Day, have you noticed?  On Valentine’s Day!  We love to use the excuse that Valentine’s Day is just another day, “we love each other everyday” or that Valentine’s Day is stupid, or Lord knows all the reasons Valentine’s Day is a P.O.S. But we get it! You’re so in love all day every day.  (Or, you basically hate romance.)  BUT, take a break in your week, slow down, and go out to a little dinner without phones & connect with your partner. We go so fast – working, playing, skipping, stressing – we don’t allow ourselves space to slow down & create time.  Use Valentine’s Day.  Nothing fancy, because making it a huge deal is exhausting. Take your time through the food, put your phones away, and stare into each others eyes.  LOL LOL just kidding, but listen & talk.

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Whether you’re in a relationship or not, use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to show loving behavior that’s out of character for you.  Weird? For example, if you don’t usually bring in snacks for your coworkers because you prefer looking tough & unemotional, bring in a fucking cake & slap it on the table with forks.  Cheers!    If you’ve never given a greeting card with a personal note inside, buy a few & hand them out!  SMILE to everyone. Be nice.  Be thoughtful.  Give your doggie an extra long walk, listen to someone longer that you normally would, call your parents.  And I challenge you (and I) to continue making these nice gestures all month long.

Don’t you think that’s better than all the other shit going on?  Lets keep loving, kissing, hugging, eating cake, dancing, listening, and being thoughtful.

WOOT WOOT!  Excited for this month.

What are you doing to celebrate Valentine’s Day?

Have a great week & be thoughtful…

Xx

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Best of 2016: Findings

Did You Know? This year, 212 million copies of the IKEA catalog were printed in 29 languages and 62 editions. For comparison, that’s more than double the average world sales of the Bible each year. ( v i a )


And my last & final Best of 2016 list is: Random Findings.   Every once and awhile something pops into your life & changes it forever…

Best of 2016 Findings

1. Cravings

Starting with the obvious here, this cookbook allowed me the opportunity to appreciate cookbooks again.  I was a loyal fan of “pinteresting” recipes, but after reading this cookbook I’ve spread my wings and began the exploration of other colorful cookbooks with a hot model on the cover.  I don’t know if Chrissy Teigen and John Legend are so hot that all of a sudden I’m attracted to the steak sauce on pg 72, but it’s happening all the way from the front to the back of this book.  I haven’t tried a recipe that I haven’t fallen in love with, the only caution – calories! Portion control is necessary.

2. Amazon Prime

How/Why/Where/Who am I?! I can’t believe I haven’t discovered the glory that is Amazon Prime until this year!  Amazon Prime is the way cool people use Amazon, for a super small annual fee you can order wonderful amazon products and get 2 day shipping for free!  2 days?!  (I ordered by toothbrushes last night.) I almost skipped Christmas shopping outside my apartment all together thanks to all the glory that is Amazon Prime and I haven’t been to Target in months!  This is where we’re headed people, if you’re not on board now – it’s time.

3. Jazz Music

Jazz is the perfect background noise & has a way of making you feel fancy while sitting in your pajamas, drinking cheap wine, and reading your favorite book.  Need I say more?

4. Camp Gladiator

Camp gladiator is a work out group that I recently joined, they likely have something similar wherever you are. The reason I bring this up is because it’s the one thing that’s helped me consistently be on top of working out.  I’ve always been pretty good at going to the gym or more particularly, running – but in a group fitness camp I feel like I’m held accountable for showing up to workout, to the point where I start having FOMO when I miss one.  If you’re looking to start 2017 in a healthy way and want to stick to it, try a group camp in your area so you’re held accountable to show up.  As hesitant as I’ve been for years to join one, I’m glad I finally did.

5. Betches / My Therapist Says

These two Instagram accounts have saved my existence as an honest human being…  Don’t you love when you start following an Instagram account that clicks with everything you’ve ever felt?  These two accounts have the power to take my anxiety away with their realness and 0 fucks given attitude.  Bless them real hard.

6. Waterproof Phone Case

This summer, I was obsessing over my discovery of this $10 waterproof phone case, but I bought it near the end of the season and barely had time to use it.  I don’t know why everyone doesn’t own a couple of these. Super affordable, easy to use, and great to have on hand for a quick trip to the pool. Eeeeeek Snapchat lovers embrace.

7. NEEDTOBREATHE

I started listening to this band about 2 years ago but really engaged this last year, the music speaks to me!  It’s not too much of one genre.  I feel like if you’re listening to Rap, Jazz, Pop or Rock you’re really committed to that style – where this band feels somewhere in between, making it perfect when there’s people with different preferences together.  And, lucky me I got to see them live this year 🙂

8. Ikea Knives

No, I haven’t fell off my rocker and bumped my head – I can not live without these knives!  How do people cook without them!?  They STAY sharp, SUPER sharp.  And they’re $2!  I’m telling you, I can’t imagine a kitchen without these knives, change your life and buy a (sharp) knife.


That’s it!  All my favorites of the year 2016.  Is it weird I’m already over it, feeling deep into 2017?  Nothing better than a fresh year with a fresh outlook. Other wonderful new things – The Bachelor. I’ll be catching up tonight & feel pretty excited about it – I’m a Nick fan, poor guy needs a wife.

Remember, kick ass and be thoughtful!

Xx

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