Inspired by the man who wouldn’t get out of my way in the mall last week, I’ve compiled a list of ways you absolutely should NOT try to pick up someone you’re attracted to. Hoping to bring women together with these examples & a heads up for any guy reading, this list should come in handy for all!
One thing I don’t understand? Mean people on social media. The entire act of saying something horrible through a social media outlet, especially to someone you don’t know, is one of my biggest mysteries. If only I could meet someone who does that & figure them out…
I wish I did NOT have an updated post about my allergies & I could come back to you saying everything has been excellent! OMG I dream of saying – my anaphylactic shock was a complete fluke! Unfortunately, that’s not the case.
The worst part, I still don’t have answers.
Since my first Anaphylactic Shock situation (here), I ended up having another one. I chose not to share that info because I instantly knew I wasn’t going to have a clear answer as to why this was happening to me. All my doctors said “it won’t happen again”. And when it actually did happen again, pretty close after the first time, I knew I was in trouble. Which would leave the door open for questions, assumptions & scary conclusions. I didn’t want that type of vulnerability out there for peeps to pick at.
Better late then never sharing all my favorite things of 2017. We shall call this a mix up, because why limit ourselves to one category of favorites? These products were not all created in 2017, rather things I used through 2017. Weird but true, I typically don’t like something right when I get it. I put it down. Stare at it. And on one random day pick it up & use it consistently after that… or throw it out.
CHANEL Soleil Tan De Chanel
The obvious. Bronze anything will make my list, just be happy I’m not talking about my at home spray tan. I try not to wear a lot of makeup most days & bronzer is one of the few products I need daily. I ditched powder bronzer most of the year for this cream bronzer. I take a medium sized brush & blend it on my cheekbones to look alive everyday. Because it’s creamy I don’t feel like it drys me out & I like how it blends into my skin. I’ve had this one jar of bronzer for 45 years, used it every single day & am just now at the point where I need to repurchase.
ColourPop Echo Park Satin Lip
I’ve had this lip color for a long time & used it almost every day in 2017. I realized using a natural color on your lips, even without anything else on your face, makes you look like you’re trying. It’s such a cheat to looking ready, that or a nice lip gloss. (My fav: here) This one in particular keeps my lips super moisturized which is hard to do, and doesn’t rub off in 1 mili second. I put the smallest amount on my lips in the morning after I apply chapstick, and then use my finger to smudge it around. Au naturel.
Well here’s a little known fact about myself to chipper you up on your Thursday – I prefer/can only write a blog post when I’m listening to the Kygo station on Pandora. It has that perfect mix of vocals & instrumentals, inspiring me to get my deepest words out to the world! It can also take a turn for the worst & get me too emo, when I go back & read posts I can always tell. Ha!
TODAY is one of the best days for you guys because I’m forcing you to listen to me rave about these fucking incredible knives that I’ve ONLY cut my fingers on ONE time. And that may or may not been because I was under the influence.. of something other than wine.
ALL HAIL IKEA $2 KNIVES!
I’ve tried other knife sets & knives from different companies that claim they have the baddest, bestest, sharpest knives in the world! Not because I’ve owned many of them, but because I’ve gone to other homes & asked to use their knives. And as predicted, they fucking suck! They either have to be sharpened, be polished, or go through some other bull shit procedure in order to cut a tomato… BUT THESE IKEA BEAUTIES REQUIRE NOTHING BUT LOVE. And they slice through a tomato like butter! Are they the prettiest knives with their bright yellow & red handles? Depends if you like ketchup & mustard. I have no shame, I proudly set them at the table, especially with guests over. I’ve thrown out the other prettier knives Wafiq inherited, no more pretending Ikea knives aren’t the only things in our kitchen that matter.
I would argue one of the best things about Dubai, if not the best, is how much you can explore & simply see. Without having to pay anything or work very hard. Not without effort, Dubai sets records & created a visual piece of artwork. You can fill your entire trip just driving around exploring the different landscapes – for FREE. Sometimes paying for the view, isn’t as good as actually searching for it yourself.
I wanted to show you how to make a trip adventurous without spending a ton of money! I feel like I’m a master at going on budget friendly trips, including Dubai. Food & drink is expensive, but there’s SO much to do for free, or nearly free – if you can just get yourself there. You wouldn’t even be able to finish this list in one trip! And if you do, I can add to it 🙂
This is MY checklist when I go back – things to go stare at. And they never get old. Even when I lived there, going to stare at the items on this list was one of my favorite things to do. And a way to ensure I won’t waste my precious money.
1- Burj Khalifa
This twinkly building still takes my breathe away. Because it’s right outside the Dubai Mall there’s plenty of space to go walk around the building & look at it yourself – without paying a dime. Get yourself to the Dubai Mall & walk outside. You can eat near it, shop near it, walk near it, or just sit down & stare at it. The fountain show that plays outside the building at night will also take your breathe away. Go check it out during the day & at night for completely different views. Until Dubai builds their next world record setting building, this is the top spot for me. And you absolutely need a GoPro to fit the whole damn thing in a photo, OR spend $$$$ to have a tourey sales man take one measly photo for you…
For anyone that hasn’t had a chance to read my old posts, below are a few of my favorites from 2017! Enjoy!
Dating A Muslim Immigrant… During The “Muslim Ban”
Tis a sign of the times… I love this post because, Wafiq. What an interesting time it was. We happened to just be finishing our own immigration journey during this time & learned TONS of immigration info we never knew before. Which I think is why we were super comfortable. Even though people were freaking out. I remember we were happy, lucky & together 🙂
There are 3 questions I get asked all the time: how I was treated as a woman in the middle east, did I feel safe AND “did you have to cover up the whole time”.
I hope I’ve done a good job clarifying, go to this post to see my answers to all 3 of those questions if you haven’t already. (We went to the public beach on this trip & there were girls in thong bikinis & topless tanning, so I think people are comfortable doing whatever they please.)
For me, I wanted to fit in. I wanted to act like I’ve been there before & I know what the fuck I’m doing. There’s something powerful in that. Also, for any destination, isn’t it fun to fit in? Wear what they wear. I think it makes you appear well traveled, like you know what you’re doing in you life. So that was my goal this trip. I stuck to coverage. When I was living there, I pushed this boundary w my cut off shorts & dresses all the time, because I was bored of being covered & it was HOT AF. Being that I was just visiting, I had a different approach this time.
The theme: BLACK BLACK BLACK. If this is the color of your wardrobe, you’re in luck! I like bright colors, florals, sparkles, drama – so I had to go shopping. An abaya & burka are black, so that’s the colors you’ll see a lot of when you’re out. I asked someone why black? Why not beautiful colors + design on the abaya? I was told the original purpose of the abaya was to avoid attention. Bright florals & colors will do the opposite, drawing attention to the people wearing them. So black is the theme!
The saying “time flies when you’re having fun” is terrible & true isn’t it? I remember miserable days/years in different jobs, & man did time drag. But, of course, when you’re having fun & enjoying all the parts of your life, time goes quick! So, would you rather a boring yet long life or short yet exciting life? Ha! Nothing like that awful question to wake you up on a Thursday morning.
I’m back from Dubai! Long story short, it was fun & it went fast. Which in this case is better than the alternative.
Everyone that followed along on my Instagram Stories, thank you! That was fun to create. If you missed it, I left a lot of the stories in my “highlights” section. Click on my Instagram profile & right below the bio you’ll see the circle for Dubai & Bahrain with the stories while I was there.
If you’ve been reading for awhile you likely know this trip was a big step for me. Last time I was in Dubai I left in a rush & didn’t exactly leave every relationship in it’s best place. And that feeling strengthened even while I was back in the States, especially when Wafiq decided he was going to stay & begin the immigration process. Needless to say my relationships weren’t in tip top shape across the pond.
Last year, I decided to skip the trip Wafiq took home for that very reason, I wasn’t ready to walk back into my past OR the lions den.
This year I was ready. Wafiq & I are both comfortable & confident in the choices we’ve made in the past & knowing we’re in control of the choices were going to make in the future – I felt like there was nothing to fear anymore. No judgment or conversation or threat or whatever was going to hurt me. And I don’t mean to paint the picture as if everyone was going to do just that, but when you’re struggling & feeling weak & not confident with yourself – it’s hard to defend decisions in front of anyone. And we lived in that space for awhile so I had to protect myself. But this time I was ready.
Right when we arrived, I felt like I was living in Dubai yesterday, but better. And more comfortable. Everyone was excited to see us. The first days were filled with food. Family. Friends. Kids. And Food. I definitely did not have a chance to pick up my phone & document anything. But because those first days were easy, I immediately knew the rest of the trip would be too.
2018 is on it’s way! Lets set goals, shall we?!
No.
No we shall not.
I thought a lot about this. The big, long-term beautiful (somewhat vague) end goal is always in sight, but all the others change. I love it! I welcome change, even though I fear it. As ideas & goals shift throughout the year, you create new agendas & updated accordingly. Which is why, now that it’s 2018 & resolutions are all the talk, you shouldn’t feel pressure to make them.
I’ve learned one of the worst things you can do to yourself is lose your own trust. Disappoint yourself. I know any goal I set on Jan 1, 2018 will end up changing, therefore I’ll end up disappointing myself & losing my trust. Which is a big no-no. So, fuck the 2018 goals.
Remember when you were little and getting ready for soccer games, a school play, choir/band performance and your teacher or parents would tell you “Just do your best”? Maybe you heard that, maybe you were already the best…
I wish we still had an adult following us around, reminding us to do our best. I recently had a boss that filled a position where he was in way over his head. Drowning in the position because he likely over promised what skills he actually had. I watched him drown. I tried my best to help him but quickly noticed he wasn’t trying his best. He didn’t fulfill the position requirements and instead of digging his heels in and trying to do his best to figure it out, he resisted. He passed everything he could off to anyone that would take it. He gave it to his bosses, people under him, people next to him. He refused to learn. He trusted his seniority would precedent.
Over the weeks, that turned into months, I started wondering why he wouldn’t try. What happened to trying to do your best? Come in to work every day and do the very best YOU can do. If it’s a mess or not everything gets done, at least you tried. I don’t understand people who don’t try to do their best. Why wouldn’t you? With my boss, whatever his issue with the position was, I still think he should’ve tried to do his best at it, every single day until he’s either learned the position requirements or found something else.
If you stop doing your best, how boring? What are you learning? What are you getting better at? In conversations, try to do your best at listening. At workouts, try to be your best athlete. Preparing for the week, try to do your best each Sunday. I mean shiiiii, if you’re not trying at anything anymore you need to get a hobby you enjoy. If you’re an expert at everything, you have the wrong mindset. Find things to work hard at & be passionate about. I hated my job once, and let me tell you – I did my very best at finding something better. At going to work every single day knowing I was trying for something better, so I felt comfortable working hard while I was there.
Thank you to everyone for your feedback on the Jury Duty post! I can’t describe the relief it was to feel other people understand where I was coming from… The experience made me think I was alone on an island called Understanding – so thank you thank you thank you! And like I said, I’m not done with this, so stay tuned. My wheels are spinning! Please continue to let me know if you have similar stories, ideas, thoughts – I love hearing them!
Today, I’m getting off the serious train & into something I consider a little more enjoyable. I become overwhelmed & disengage quickly when someone is in a constant heavy subject. Even for me, that gets exhausting. I need to full circle of conversation. I also try to enjoy my life & freedoms as much as possible because I know they are not granted to everyone.
Let’s talk Black Friday & Cyber Monday. Fuck that shit! (Yeah right, I spent the entire weekend scrolling the internet in efforts to procrastinate all other tasks. Procrastination does not end in college.)
