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5 Rules For Acceptable Bragging

Did You Know?  In a survey of 2,000 people, more than 75% admitted to lying about themselves on social profiles.  Only 18% said that their Twitter and Facebook profiles accurately represent them.

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There’s something about being a badass bragger that I love.

If you do it wrong, than bragging is horrifically obnoxious.

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I love hearing people talk about what they’re passionate about, what makes them happy.  Whether that was a time in their life or an event they’re currently going through.  To see them get excited & feel comfortable enough opening up is exciting.  Conversations like these really get me going.

 

But there’s also people that don’t know how to brag properly.  They’re more focused on being a show off than sharing good news.  I think if you have to glorify every part of your life & constantly talk about it, there must be some self-confidence issues going on.  (LOL I’m laughing at my physiological conclusions here, but stay with me)

 

I broke down 5 Rules To A Good Brag because I think at some point bragging is awesome, but you have to do it correctly.

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5 Rules To Being A Badass Bragger

  1. Wait for someone to ASK YOU about something.  This rule is a little tricky because sometimes people don’t know what to ask.  But, for the most part, always wait for someone to ask about you & what you’ve been up to. If that’s your children, dog, career, vacation, relationship, boyfriend – wait for them to ask.  “How’s work going?”  “I saw you ran a marathon, was it hard?” “How’s Bernice?”  If they never ask, that’s pretty telling, they don’t give a shit. HA!  Send them to my post on: LISTENING.
  2. Shut Up.  Conversation tip across the board – Shut Up.  Don’t go on forever about anything, ever.  No matter who you are or how important the info you’re sharing is, remember to cut it off. Or at least stop, breathe, and ask for questions?
  3. Think about the WHY.  Why are you sharing?  Are you sharing because you want to feel better about yourself?  That’s not the right reason.  Are you sharing because you’re excited & want others to feel excited too?  Then brag away! But don’t brag simply so you can feel cool, or better, or special.  Brag because you’re overjoyed & want others to feel overjoyed too.
  4. Always express your GENUINE gratitude & appreciation.  This is the most important one to being a good bragger.  You have to always make sure you express how lucky you are to be married to the top RE Agent in the U.S. ( 😉 )  Or how grateful you are to travel through the African Safari for 6 months of the year.  Or how appreciative you are that you have the career of your dreams.  I don’t know what you’re bragging about, but it’s important to ALWAYS be humble while bragging.  Then others know, you know, you’re lucky.
  5. Try to include your audience.  Sometimes you might be bragging about something huge.  You’re getting married, you’re having a kid.. That’s big stuff, and likely your audience isn’t going through that large of an event to equally be able to brag about it… Still try to include them, rather than talk AT them forever.  If they have kids, or got married, try to relate or ask questions.  Help them remember those times.  Bring them in, because talking AT people is really annoying, so do your best to include them somehow.5 Rules-for-Bragging

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What do you think about Bragging?!  Funny topic right?  Bragging is weird to admit because it’s so much conversation about yourself!  But it’s fun to be excited with people who are excited, so if you brag correctly – then brag away!

 

I’m off to brag to Wafiq about how I was paid today and have yet to blow it all online shopping!  I’m sharing with him because I’m excited & I’ll ask him how he’s doing on his savings so we can be proud together!  HA!

 

Have a great weekend everyone! Go out, brag away, and be thoughtful…

 

Xx


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The Best Sports Bra to Hold In Your Ting Tangs

Did You Know? Women simply don’t have the genetic potential to develop bulky muscles. They don’t have sufficient amounts of testosterone — the hormone largely responsible for the development of muscle bulk.

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If you’ve ever struggled finding a good sports bra that isn’t $1,000 then you’ll understand this post.  I played sports a lot when I was younger and have always enjoyed running or working out so a sports bra is an essential part of my closet.  I don’t care if they’re cute,  I care that they hold my ting tangs still.  I HATED the times I’d be wearing a bra that wasn’t strong enough & my ting tang’s bounced around for everyone to see during my runs.  UGH, also so unflattering. Oooga Oooga Oooga. Just no. No. No.

Victoria Secret sports bra

Classic Black (HERE) // Pretty Nude (HERE) // Zip Front (HERE)

This reminds of the time Wafiq & I were hiking this very popular hill in Los Angeles and we saw this woman we nicknamed: “Dagger Tits”.

 She came plowing down the hill, full speed ahead.  Super athletic, marine woman – confident.  Wearing a very little, ocean blue, Yoga style, triangle bra covering each of her areolas.  Unfortunately, her small breasts went up & down so severely it was if they were each a gun being shot off in an old western stand-off.  Pew pew pew pew!  Cutting the air like a sharp blade.  Pointed. Up, then down, then up! Then down.  We cringed in pain.  We may lose a breast here.  That is one of the many moments I can use to advocate the importance of a strong sports bra.

Anyways, I doubted the Victoria’s Secret sports bras for a long time because they’re cute, they claim to be “push ups, and VS is not known as an athletic company.  Not the formula for nailing down the chest.

Until recently when I needed new sports bras & I was totally unhappy with what I had.  I knew there had to be better & I could only hope at an affordable price…

Because I found this Victoria’s Secret sports bra for $35 I thought – fuck it.  Why not give it a try, better than spending tons of money on another one that might not even work.

Well, lets thank the heavens because this bad boy holds your ting tangs STILL.  And the bra is cute, comfortable, AND affordable!  I went back the next day & bought 3 more.  I’m not sure what girls with little chesties will think, I’m sure that’s an entire different situation – but if you want something to hold everything in, this is it!

Side note, the bra’s with the clips on the back like this one: HERE, can dig into your back a little if you’re doing something laying down.  Not awful but if you’re sensitive, take that into consideration.  Don’t worry, there’s also options where the bra clips in the front, like this one: HERE.

If you’re having trouble staying motivated for your work outs try buying some new workout gear that you’re excited to wear.  It sounds silly but really makes a difference.  It makes you really want to get out there & work hard! Feel good.  Look good. Workout good.

That’s it for my Monday!  Off to celebrate my dog learning to fetch me her Kong for peanut butter treats! OUI!

Have a great day, and be thoughtful,

Xx

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My Easy, Everyday Makeup (free) Routine & 5 Reasons You Should Get On Board

Did You Know? The thinnest skin is found on your precious eyelids measuring at .02mm thick.  The thickest skin is found on your feet measuring at 1.4mm thick. ( v i a )

 


I never thought I’d see the day where I wouldn’t want to wear makeup all day, during work, but here we are.  For the past 2 months I’ve abstained from MOST of my makeup at work.

 

My Daily Makeup Routine

I used to think makeup was important at work because it helps you look awake, alert, professional, clean, put together, on time – but I’ve had a shift in mentality recently.  I don’t want to put shit on my face when my computer screen & a few people are the only ones reaping the benefits.  Most of the time I don’t even look in a mirror so I’m not even able to marvel at my artwork.

I’ll admit, I’ve never been the person that’s afraid to go outside of the house without makeup, or in my sweatpants (sometimes pajamas).  So going without makeup wasn’t necessarily fearful for me, as I think some people that wear makeup every day can end up feeling.

I decided to ditch the bronzer, foundation, blush, eye shadow, highlight, or whatever else I was using every day.

I think the first week was a little shocking for the other employees.  Like maybe I had an illness or was SUPER hungover or Wafiq & I were breaking up.  In my defense, I don’t think I looked like an ailing ghost, I think it was different from what they were used to seeing.  ESPECIALLY in the mornings when my eyes are puffy and usually red because of allergies + without makeup my freckles & sun spots are visible.  I definitely don’t have the smoothness & dimension that foundation & bronzer bring to the table.

After a week or so went by I perfected the moisturizer, concealer, and mascara routine to a point where I still felt put together, but free.  I think all makeup wearing people, including lovers of makeup, can admit there’s nothing like a fresh, bare, clean face.  YUM.

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My Routine:

  1. Clean Face: Stick to your normal face wash routine.  Full disclosure, I skip this step most mornings. I like the oil that my face accumulated overnight & prefer not to wash it away.

  2. Moisturize: As you know, I’ve been using this Tepez Cream, but am always looking for a stellar moisturizer (tell me!!)

  3. Oil: I like an oily face.  Lately, I’ve been trying Avocado Oil.  I put a thin layer all over, including my neck.  Even Wafiq does this step now 🙂

  4. Conceal:  Use any concealer under your eyes to brighten your entire face with little effort. Lately, I’ve been using this one, but I switch all the time.  Make a huge triangle under your eyes & the spots you want to cover << for me, it’s always around my chin.

  5. Blend:  Wet a beauty blender, I love this one, then start dabbing the blender all over the concealer until it’s blended out & looking smooth.

  6. Powder:  Unless it’s really hot outside, I can skip this step.  Otherwise, I put a translucent powder or a nude eye shadow from this pallet under my eyes to keep the concealer in place all day.

  7. Curl Lashes:  I have stick straight lashes, so curling is a must!

  8. Mascara:  I’ve used this one since I was 16.  I noticed doing both the top & bottom eyelashes helps A LOT.  Sometimes I’ll do the top only & when I look in the mirror, I get scared.

  9. Chapstick: Don’t forget to moisturize your lips!  This finishes it all perfectly!

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That’s my new every day, work “look”.

I’m feeling a bit empowered, when I look at my gorgeous coworker’s fully contoured & looking like a hard 10 face – I still find myself happy that my face is clean & nearly makeup free. Confident that I can wear my oily, moisturized face with a dab of concealer & way less product.

So much less to think about, right?!

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5 Benefits of Less Makeup During Workdays:

  • Save money on expensive makeup products

  • Easy & fast – meaning less time getting ready in the morning & more time sleeping

  • Focus on the health of your actual skin – moisturizing & clarifying the skin that you have

  • Enjoy weekend makeup again – you’ll be creative & energized when you get to do a full face of makeup with all your products on a well-rested face

  • Boost of confidence – You’ll feel proud & confident to rock the carefree make up look at the office! Trust me 🙂

My Daily Makeup Routine

I throw on layers of makeup on the weekends or a night out or anytime I’m bored.  Bring on the blush, glitter, bronzer with a glow, fake lashes, red lipstick, and whatever else I can find –  but as far as day to day, super minimal is my new routine!

I totally understand this sounds silly to a lot of makeup-free people but once you get used to wearing makeup it’s kind of weird to walk away from it…  For anyone that sits behind a desk the majority of the day & doesn’t see the point in spending $$$ on an expensive, gorgeous, high glow, foundation to wear all day at work.  Skip it! Save it for the weekends & weeknight outings.

My Daily Makeup Routine

To make my life even easier, I roll my hair up into a clip before bed & let it down the next day for a super relaxed curl.  That’s it.  My morning routine is 10 minutes max.

Anyone else started wearing less makeup during the day when you’re staring at the computer for hours? Let me know! I need a support group.

Have a great start to the week & as always, be thoughtful

Xx

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October Monthly Favorites 2016 | MissBassmaster

October is O.V.E.R.  Time to get a few workouts in before the November thanksgiving meals come rolling through.  If you can keep a consistent workout routine in, you can make it through the holidays like nothing happened!  Stay moving & step away from the cookies!  (Yeah right, my fav food group is cookie… and I’m past the point of denial. )

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October Favorites:

  1. L’Oreal Infallible Pro-Matte Foundation: Because I have such dry skin I’ve never pursued matte foundation.  I imagine the foundation getting in every dry skin crack & making my face look sucked of life.  However, I accidentally came across this foundation & have used almost the entire bottle already.  The finish is soft matte w a pretty full coverage & doesn’t squeeze in my wrinkles. I add highlight to a couple spots of my face if I’m still wanting the glow, otherwise matte it is!

  2. Tepezcohuite Cream: You already know!  I love this moisturizer, really.  It’s exactly what I was looking for. Something natural, that I can throw on my face as often as I please.  I still slab on large amounts of coconut oil or other face products here & there, but this is a perfect lightweight, non greasy option I always feel comfortable putting on my freshly washed face.  This product will have a place on my bathroom shelf for a long time.

  3. F21 Choker:  I bought this because I had a couple dollars left to spend on a gift card & I’ve been wearing this choker ever since!  Somehow it’s managing to go with every single wardrobe, including my pajamas.  LOL!  Although it’s super affordable, it hasn’t broken or became a dingy color – good find, had to share.

  4. Chelsea:  My new idol.  Before you turn away, I wasn’t a HUGE fan of her show Chelsea Lately on E!, so don’t disregard this favorite thinking I’m simply a fan of Chelsea anything.  This show is on Netflix & has a late night talk show feel to it, but different.  She tries to teach you shit.  Her interview questions go a step deeper than the typical “tell us about your movie”.  You have to give this show a try, at least 1 full episode!! I LOVE IT & it’s seriously inspired new blog directions to take next year.

  5. Ikea Paring Knives:  I can’t believe I haven’t spoken of these knives yet?!  They. Are. Amazing.  I can NOT stand being in the kitchen, trying to slice a fucking tomato, and it turns into a mashed tomato because no knife remains sharp enough to cut through it!  You’ve been there.  If you want to talk about a torturous cooking experience, bring in the dull knives!  From my deli department days I can also remind you that it’s dangerous to have these dull knives in the kitchen, makes room for accidents.  Some how these Ikea knives WORK.  They can cut through anything (including fingers), so be VERY careful.  I think they’re like $2!!!!!!!!


That’s it for October ladies and gentleman! Anyone have an favorites they’ll share w me?  Always looking!

Have a great week & be thoughtful!

Xx

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Petite Ponderings: Halloween, Moving, & Music

I’m skipping Halloween costumes this year.  Typically, I’m all for a themed party or event & usually love Halloween – but this year I’m tired!

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It’s been one heck of a month {one thing after another} so Halloween came creeping in & the very last thing I can consider is participating in a costume.  Does anyone have a good costume prepped?? Love a good costume situation.

If you’re looking for something last minute and want to kill it – do THIS.  Worked wonders for me, I had everything at home to recreate the look AND it was shockingly easy.

As for me, I’ve already planned my weekend – pumpkin carving, fall baking, and maybe some bunny ears to sneak in Halloween spirit while I carve my jack-o-lantern… Possibly watch a scary movie too?

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Last weekend I luckily discovered my favvvvorite band NEEDTOBREATHE had a performance in Austin at the Long Center, which I love because the backdrop is Austin’s beautiful skyline.  The weather was amazing.  The whole event was a real winner, I’m grateful I didn’t miss it!  You guys need to download their albums if you haven’t already, incredibly feel good music.  Their lyrics slay & go a step deeper than “work work work work work work work work work” (I love Rihanna, but you get it).

I love ALL music, but I think this band might be my favorite.  It’s the most consistently fantastic group, I’m obsessed & am fully aware I toot their horn – A. LOT.

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I also went to a friend’s going away party last weekend.  We’ve both been to a few of each other going away parties, I think we alternate our moving timeline.  I had a conversation with her, and recently a conversation with my brother, about moving away.  All of us have moved our homes at least once and we were talking about how painless it truly is.

You pack up and you leave, and if you hate it, you pack up and you come back.

Your first move tends to be scary because it feels so permanent. People tend to make you feel that way too.  But in reality it doesn’t need to be.  It’s pretty easy, especially if you’re not moving across the world, that’s somewhat of a different decision.  Anyway, I bring this up because I want anyone making a big decision or thinking about a big decision to realistically think about it.  If it’s the right decision you’ll know and you’ll see it clearly with surprisingly little concern or doubt. I’m piggy backing off my last post, so reference my steps for making a brave decision for a deeper look.

Fingers crossed November goes smoother than this gloomy October of mine. The best way to guarantee that, shopping!  I’ll share my good finds soon 😉

Have a great, safe, weekend & be thoughtful!

Xx

 

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5 Ways To Make A Brave Decision

Did you know? “The top fear Americans reported in the 2015 survey is the corruption of government officials. In fact, 58 percent of respondents reported being “afraid” or “very afraid” of a corrupt government.” ( v i a )


In order to validate the following I have to toot my own horn a little.   I’ve appeared to be brave a couple different times in my life.   I feel like I’ve mastered faking bravery very well in order to get through specific scenarios.  (Don’t give me a strep throat test or you’ll see the opposite of bravery in a matter of seconds.)

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Bravery can be a wiiiiiide range of things.  The brave decisions most people know about me are making moves, literally. Moving away after high school, Dominican Republic, Dubai

But Bravery can also be quitting or changing your career.  Breaking up with your boyfriend or dating a girl.  Being promiscuous.  Deciding to divorce.  Having a baby. Getting through health struggles or confessing to health struggles.  Sharing honest opinions, admitting you fucked up, crying.  Saying sorry. Meeting a new group of friends, networking, asking for a raise.

All of these choices, you should feel brave enough to do.

5 Ways To Make A Brave Decision:

  1.  RESEARCH

    Whatever it is that you’re trying to be brave about, learn about it.  Learn as much as you can. Ask questions that you’re worried about, don’t be afraid to say what’s making you scared.  Own the fears & ask about them.  Be sure to ask the internet, or sources that are going to give you their honest facts or opinions.  Avoid gossip like the plague.  Search for honesty & facts.  Don’t ask to hear an answer you’re looking for, ask to hear honesty.  One of my most recent brave moves was when I moved to Dubai, to everyone else it looked like too fast of a decision based on whole lot of nothing.  But I asked the internet any scary question I had, I skype interviewed people in Dubai that were doing what I wanted to do, I looked at my current situation, and I made a long, well thought out pro & con list.  I knew as much as I could have possibly known before leaving.

  2. SHUT UP

    Actions speak louder than words.  One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone talks about doing something 1 million times, every single day, and never puts action to their words.  Don’t be that person.  Do all your research so that by the time you start talking about it, IF you ever start talking about it, you’re brave enough to trust what you’re saying.  You already have a plan. No one can talk the bravery out of you, because the opinions of others can’t sway the facts you’ve already spent time researching.   Of course, they’ll be a couple close people that you might need to talk to before making your brave move in order to get your research in order, but keep quiet besides that.   There’s been a lot of “brave” decisions I’ve had in my mind that no one has ever heard about, because I did my research & determined I needed to shut them down.  Be smart and make your very own decisions before blabbering.

  3. BE SELFISH

    Sounds easy but it isn’t.  Everyone has a fucking opinion & it’s annoying.  At the end of the day, your main concern should always be yourself and your own happiness.  Here’s why – the people in your life are not going to get the best version of you if you’re not happy.  So do what you need to do for yourself to be happy, I promise it’ll only benefit everyone in the long run.  If that means breaking up with a boyfriend, he would also never have the relationship he deserves w you if you weren’t confident in it, in the long run it’s beneficial for both of you to do what you need to do for yourself to be happy. When your main concern is making yourself happy & you’re able to shut out all other distractions, you’ll be braver than you think you can be.  And eventually, everyone will get it.

  4. CONFIDENCE

    This one & the next are the 2 most important ways to be brave.  BE CONFIDENT.  Trust yourself! Trust yourself! Trust yourself!  You have no idea how many other people you’ll inspire by believing in yourself.   And remember, sometimes being brave is admitting when you’re wrong, that’s ok!  That’s one of the bravest things to do in the entire world because it makes you completely vulnerable < almost everyone struggles at this.  Sometimes you fuck up, make a bad decision, or trust the wrong people – that’s ok too.  Pick it up and move on with another brave decision.  Maybe you never want to have kids, maybe you want to come out of the closet, maybe you want to quit your corporate job & pursue acting – trust yourself!  Be confident through the whole process, beginning middle and end.

  5. BELIEVE

    Alright, I’m going a lil spiritual here, but what the hell – If you don’t have some kind of spirit then it’s going to be hard to have bravery.  I think we all have a path planned for us,  it’s a matter of trusting the path and believing in it.  That’s why I try hard to trust my gut & not let too many other opinions change it.  Even after a failed decision, I rarely regret it.  At the end of the day, any decision you make, whether it turns out or not was likely meant to happen.  Maybe there was a lesson to be learned, maybe it turned into the best decision ever, maybe you had to go through something to get out the other side a different person.  Whatever was meant to happen, will happen, so you have to keep going on your path & believe in all of it.

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And remember what’s the worst that can happen?  USUALLY, the worst isn’t that bad, its recoverable. We’re all afraid to be brave because we’re afraid to fail or what people will think when/if we do.  But if you don’t make a few brave decisions in your life then you’re likely concerned w too many other people and not enough about yourself.  Life is speedy quick, so brave decisions are important to act on.

What did Matt Damon say in the movie We Bought A Zoo?   “You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”

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Share your brave decisions below 🙂

Have a great rest of the week & be extra thoughtful

Xx

 

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Petite Ponderings: “Bobby, Don’t Be Mean”

October, October bring on October.  A lot going on!

Kim Kardashian held at gun point in Paris?  I hate hearing things like that because I start thinking – if she can get in that situation, so can anyone!  She has body guards, I have a freaking doggie that’s afraid of people.  I guess when it’s your time, it’s your time.

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Recently, a lot going on around me.  I feel like I need to stand completely still.  Hold on to sweet Bernie & Wafiq for dear life… & not move.

Does that ever happen to you?  So much movement & activity, the only thing you can do is try to be still.  (I imagine that’s a little how the apocalypse will feel.)

You’re a little invested in each person’s difficulties & you take it on yourself, but also try not to because it’s important for you to keep it together for them.  One day at a time is the best way to go.

Through all this, one thing I can’t stand is mean people.  It sounds like something your 2nd grade teacher would say, but I notice myself finding that’s the best word I can find to describe people:  “Don’t be mean little Bobby.”   I find myself wanting to do less & less with other people because I don’t want to be around anyone that’s mean – to me or to anyone else.  And shockingly that’s hard to find.   When I do find nice people I appreciate them so much.

I think people are mean either because they’re selfish & are upset that any given situation isn’t going their way, so they lash out & act mean as a way to return their feelings.

The other reason I think people are mean is to defend themselves.  Either their confidence, their lifestyle, their choices, their words, their actions, their moods…

Both reasons suck.

I keep telling myself to be as nice as possible to as many people as I can & hopefully that will rub off on them. Even when I’m around a group of mean people for example, I notice myself mumbling mean things under my breathe & I have to immediately remind myself to stop.

Staying away from mean people is the best way to handle it, because adding only makes things worse.

I will say, defending yourself is acceptable & different than being mean.  My suggestion when defending yourself is to use facts & as little emotion as possible, otherwise mean things might projectile out.

Facts keep things unarguable.

Defending yourself is just as important as being kind, but being mean is a whole other ball game that I have no interest in getting tickets to.

One a lighter note – What’s going on in our house?  I’ve been working to streamline my blog, try to focus it a little more.  My goal is to have all the brand aspects, website accessibility, links, posts, social media, ect more functional by the end of the year.  I feel like I worked this year to experiment a little (thank you to anyone still straggling along with me) to see what was comfortable, what worked, what didn’t… And next year I want a little better focus.  So between now and January that’s what I’m working towards.

Wafiq, Bernice and our house is as happy of a home as it can be.  We’re so happy to have it!  I can’t express how much I live for little ways of decorating, visiting Home Goods, buying a new cooking tool, organizing and purging my own closet – it’s a dream.

How’s everyone else doing?  I’m excited because this is the first year I’m exercising my right to vote! WOOT WOOT!  Felling more American than ever.

Have a relaxed day, be kind, and extra thoughtful.

Xx

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Everything Happens For A Reason

“Sometimes God will inconvenience you in order to help somebody else. Instead of getting frustrated when our plans don’t work out, we need to remember that it’s not all about us. Maybe God has you there on purpose to let your light shine. He’s counting on you to be a good influence on someone else.” – Joel Osteen

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I read this quote online months ago & it’s popped in my mind on almost a daily basis since then.  I don’t follow Joel Osteen (a friend of mine reposted it on FB), and I’m not suuuper religious, but I translated this quote to apply to me.

I find it pretty spectacular how certain words, music, or art can leave such lasting impressions.  Especially because -how many quotes a day do we scroll through on FB, Instagram, Pinterest & whatever else…

For something to stick, is a big deal. And this one stuck.

I am THE believer in the saying: “Everything happens for a reason”.  No matter what I go through & then look back at – it always makes sense.  Always.  Every instinct I have, moving away, changing, jobs, new friends, relationships, decisions I religiously believe happens for a reason & that’s what I use as motivation not to question myself too much.

Having that belief also helps me worry less.  When I make what appears to be a large decision to most people (moving to Dubai before ever seeing it), I have loads of confidence in my decision because I know that’s what I feel is my next step  – and it’s happening for a reason.

When I get to Dubai, and am having an experience that is nothing like I imagined, I have in the back of my mind that it’s happening to me for a reason.  That keeps me calm.  Okay with the process.  But eager to figure out “why”.  The lightbulb moment.

The problem I noticed, and how this quote changed my mind a little, is that sometimes something that happens isn’t for ME.  Or for YOU.  It happened for someone else.  The explanation might not be there for me to see.

To help this make sense – I was always so concerned and now realizing selfish, waiting to see how each decision would play out and how it would benefit ME.  What the hell is that?!  (Writing this down is making me embarrassed.)

Everything happens for a reason, but that benefit might not apply to me.  I always thought: “Oh that happened to me so I could meet so-and-so” “Ohhhh that happened to me so I would leave my work place” “Ohh that happened to me so I could learn confidence”

Hopefully I’m making sense.

After glancing past this quote I realized I had it wrong.. for pretty much ever.  Everything does happen for a reason,  still faithfully believe that, however that reason might not always be – to benefit ME.

Maybe my light was shinning & it was needed to shine somewhere else.  Maybe I needed to be a complete fail so someone else could realize their life doesn’t suck as bad. HA!

But hello?! DUH!

After I started thinking this way, nearly every day for the past 6 months or so, it’s almost as if the pressure has been taken off of ME.  Because it’s not all about me.  It’s about all of us.

I know, I’m deep.

You can imagine, I’ve had months of thinking about this and it’s all coming out.  But the whole thought changed a lot of my mindset and has influenced my decisions & reactions the past couple months, so I thought it was worth sharing.

Because it’s a bit of a relief.

Thoughts?

 

Xx

 

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3 Easy, Healthy & Delicious Dip Recipes

My favorite part of any meal – the dips!

No meal is complete without an extra kick, that bonus flavor.  Growing up, 7 layer dip w/chips ALL DAY.  Sour cream. Salsa.  Ranch.  Garlic Butter. Cheese. Marinara. Buffalo Sauce.   Shit, really anything dip-able.

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Well these days I’m a little more aware of what I’m eating, still a dip lover, but not so much the garlic butter from the Papa John’s pizza boxes style anymore.

And the best part, these dips are easy peasy, healthy & you can make them at home so you know what you’re eating.  (My favorite thing.)  Plus, you can make these dips anywhere – thanks gosh because homemade guacamole saved me from my Mexican food cravings whilst in Dubai.  And now homemade hummus is doing the same while here in the States.  OUI OUI.

Here you go, my 3 favorite DIPS to accompany any food:

Guacamole

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(I’m on a guacamole bender from the Cajun Shrimp Guacamole Bites recipe, I might surrender my own recipe for this one.  And anyone that’s tasted it agrees something’s different & damn delicious – Thanks Joyful Healthy Eats!!  )

4 small avocados

½ cup cilantro

juice of 1 lime (about 2-3 tablespoons)

1½ tablespoons red wine vinegar

½ teaspoon red pepper flakes

salt to taste

Directions: Add avocado, cilantro, lime juice, red wine vinegar, red pepper flakes, and salt to a food processor or blender. Lightly pulse until the mixture is smooth.

+ Accompany with: Chips, Carrots, Tacos, Shrimp, Potatoes, Chicken, Burgers, Salad, Sandwiches

Plain Yogurt:

3-Easy-Healthy-Dips Yogurt

(Best discovery… ever.  If you aren’t already using plain yogurt in replacement of sour cream you are major MISSING OUT!  Plain Yogurt is good for you so throw out your Sour Cream, be gone with it already!)

Yogurt

Flax seeds Or Salsa

Directions: Mix together either Yogurt + Flax Seeds or Yogurt + Salsa. Plain Yogurt is your new best friend.

+ Accompany with: Chips, Tacos, Potato, Rice Dishes, mix in your mashed potatoes

Hummus:

3-Easy-Healthy-Dips-Hummus

(Thank you sweet baby Jesus I started making this at home.  I was completely over spending so much $$$$$ on hummus OR hummus filled w/weird mystery ingredients I couldn’t pronounce.  Fed up!  I want chick peas mashed up w/some damn Tahini! MmMmMm)

1 Can organic Chickpeas (Rinsed & Drained)

2 Tbls Tahini

Juice of 1 Lime

1 Garlic Clove

2 tsp Cumin

1/2 tsp Cayenne Pepper

1/2 tsp Onion Powder

1 tsp Garlic Salt

1/4 C. Olive Oil

Directions:  Mix all the ingredients in a little blender. Blend for 1-2 minutes or until everything is smooth.  (Add more olive oil if you need it smoother.) Transfer to a container. Make a small dip in the center with the back of a spoon and drizzle extra olive oil over the top. Pro.

+Accompany with: chicken, carrots, celery, broccoli, rice dishes, salads, olives, bread, crackers

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There you go – my 1, 2, 3 of adult dipping.  I have at least one of these three items ready to roll in my refrigerator at all times.

You have to change up those bland-ish weekday meals w/added flavor, so give these a try!  Let me know if you’re a major dipper & what’s a go-to for your daily meals.

I’m off to finish my celery & hummus snack… and catch up on the Real Housewives of New York.  Wowzers, this Luann engagement is a little awkward.  What is marriage these days? LOL

Be thoughtful & happy Friday!

 

Xx

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F*** It Friday – I’m NOT Down With Turmeric Milk

I love trying pretty much everything I read about.  I obsess over other bloggers & their ideas + creativity.  New food, new makeup, new skin product, new style, new idea, new adventure – I’ll try it.

Wafiq laughs at me. After my garlic discoveries I went wild on the internet, fell in love with a ton of bloggers, and experimented like crazy.

Sorry to burst anyone’s bubble but majority of the these new ideas I try for a month… & stop.  They don’t have the same amazing results I read about.  I barely admit that to myself & never admit it to Wafiq or my friends. EVERYTHING I DO WORKS!  Yeah right, this was my first realization I was in lala land.

 No-Turmeric-Milk

One time I tried: Turmeric Milk.  Remember that trend rotating through blogs?

The health benefits of turmeric, having a night time “treat” that was healthy, the beautiful pictures, and the unique recipe had me going.

I bought all the ingredients & was ready to see results.

Wafiq watched me that evening as I was opening the coconut milk and measuring out turmeric.  If you don’t know, turmeric is an ingredient they often use in Indian Food dishes, specifically Curry.  It’s what gives curry the orange/yellow color.

Both Wafiq and I are major curry lovers.  Another reason I expected this recipe to be a major win.

After measuring all the ingredients, pouring the end product into a large coffee cup, it was the first time Wafiq told me he didn’t think this was such a great idea.

I took my first sip.

It wasn’t good.

But I didn’t care because drinking garlic juice wasn’t good either but it nearly saved my life.

So I chugged the whole glass of turmeric milk. (throw up in my mouth, throw up in my mouth, throw up in my mouth)

Wafiq was watching & kind of laughed.

I kind of laughed.

And that was it.  I went to sit down and continue watching TV.  About 3 minutes later I felt S I C K ! Very very very nauseous.  I didn’t want to tell Wafiq. I never tell anyone when one of these ideas fails me.  And this one was failing me hard!

He could see me starting to sweat a little.  Literally.

We couldn’t conversate as I felt like any moment I was going to vomit, yet he kept pushing conversations? He knew.  I finally had to tell him I didn’t feel well.   His smirk was money.

I had to slowly move myself to the bed.  This was baaaaaaaaad.  I have a pretty strong stomach but I really felt my insides were about to projectile bright turmeric yellow all over the bedroom.  The entire night I had to concentrate hard on not vomiting.  Props to Wafiq because he didn’t rub it in my face, I think he felt bad.  Until the next morning when I was alive again, then he had a good laugh at me.  I had to laugh too.  Not everything is going to work for me or be as good as I read it to be, and I definitely needed a reality check – this was it.

I still can’t think about curry.  I still can’t think about coconut milk.  Or turmeric.

When I read about turmeric now I want to cry.  I can never have it again!!

F*** It. This wasn’t a win for me.  Just wasn’t.  Some ideas aren’t meant for everyone.  And that’s ok to admit.

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Have you ever been there? Wanted to like something so badly but you just don’t?  OMG another one for me – Oysters.  WAH! I’ll try them again soon & hopefully have an enjoyable experience.

You know what I mean?  I feel like we all have that one thing that got us, one way or another.

F*** It.  I’ll be over here sipping wine as my evening “treat” going forward.

Have a fantastic weekend everyone, stay away from turmeric milk (kidding), and be thoughtful!

Xx

 

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