Did You Know? Hoarding disorder is a persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions because of a perceived need to save them. A person with hoarding disorder experiences distress at the thought of getting rid of the items. Excessive accumulation of items, regardless of actual value, occurs. Compulsive hoarding affects approximately 700,000 to 1.4 million people in the U.S. and only 15% know their behaviors are irrational. ( v i a / v i a )
MissBassmaster crashed – alllllll the users I’ve been having crashed it! Just kidding, I wish. That sounds much better than the truth, me forgetting to renew my domain name. Procrastinating & ignoring emails that I don’t understand finally caught up to me. Thank God for my super helpful, wonderfully intelligent friends that can fix all my problems 🙂
It’s the end of January & time to talk my favorite activity – PURGING. The New Year, especially when things have settled down & gotten back into a routine, is the perfect time to clean out your living spaces. I actually attempt to throw things away every single weekend, in case immigration knocks at our door and kicks Wafiq & I out of the U.S., we’ll easily be ready to catch the red eye back to Dubai :0
Getting rid of things doesn’t come naturally to me or feel comfortable. I cried when I had to get rid of a $10 box TV and $25 bright red sofa a few years ago as I was moving. Wafiq had to pry me off my red sofa as it was sitting outside by the dumpster waiting for someone to pick up for free. (#neverforget) In the moment, it was traumatizing. I latch on to items because they’re tied to memories & money.
One of the better parts of leaving the United States & living out of a suit case was having to get rid of everything. I’ve done this a few times. All of a sudden you can live with minimum items & surprisingly barely notice, so I know it’s doable.
Since moving back to Austin, finally getting an apartment, and having more than -$100 in my bank account, I’ve tried to keep a handle on the “things” I have. If I don’t have enough room for something I take it as a sign to clean out! To brag – I’ve been doing a fantastic job. Border line too good? I’m throwing things out faster than I have a chance to doubt my decision. BYEEEEEEEEE!
“Things” to get rid of TODAY:
Bedroom & Closet
Clothes that are uncomfortable
Clothes that are cheap
Clothes that are broken, tearing, or have holes (this includes bras/underwear)
Old Swimsuits that’s don’t match or fit
Shoes that are old or broken
Shoes that don’t fit
Clothes that don’t fit
Old jewelry that has changed color
Jewelry you won’t wear
Paper/books/magazines that collect in your bedroom
Photos. (Unless they’re very special, scan & throw them.)
Furniture that you don’t like
Paper (scan everything you actually need & save to a hard drive)
DVD’s (one word, Netflix)
Decorations – knick knacks, wall hangings
Tupperware that doesn’t have a matching lid
Old food you’ll never eat
Cookware you have 2 of or that’s old
Serving utensils you have 2 of
Your entire junk drawer
Towels with holes or torn or too small
If you have too many towels, get rid of the ones that don’t match
Hair products you don’t use
Soaps, cheap lotions, old candles, old toothbrush, hand products – ANY product you don’t use
Understand the term: OLD. If it’s old, it needs to go. The items might not be old in age, but may be old in use or appearance. Yes, you can judge your items by physical appearance. If you have to question anything to determine whether or not it’s old, it’s old. Throw it away.
Don’t ask yourself – What if I could use this in the future? That’s a killer question & a no win. If you can answer it, that would make you a fortune teller. If you end up needing something similar in the future you’ll buy another one or find something else. It’s not worth the clutter in your house to ask yourself: What If? What if you never need it again? It’s just sitting there. Taking space.
Less is more. Trust me when I say, it IS better to have empty/open space than space filled with crap. Open & empty is trending & totally chic. If you have a big ass table that the dogs ate the legs off of, throw it away. You don’t have money to replace it? Don’t. Let the space be open. (We did this & it’s fine.)
Don’t feel bad about throwing things away. This was the hard part for me, to literally throw items in the trash can. Especially when you see how much you throw. When you don’t have money you never want to throw ANYTHING away. If you can’t find a charity, or if it’s broken & a charity doesn’t make sense, then throw things in your trash can. Yes, waste it. Recycle it if possible, but it needs to go. Once you come to terms with the fact that you’ll be “wasting” things, and throwing things in the trash can, you’ll get better at it. Not ideal, but sometimes that’s your only option.
Always assume you don’t need it until proven you do. I always tell myself I don’t need whatever item I’m debating about. If I can’t find a great reason to keep it, it’s gone! Unless you’re currently wearing it, cooking with it, or sitting on it – you don’t need it.
A few places to consider donating:Goodwill, Half Price Books, The Salvation Army, Safe Place but it’s also super important to google local organizations that are looking for donations. Unfortunately, Texas has an overwhelming amount of homeless people so Wafiq & I will bring them extra blankets, pillows, and jackets/clothes that we’re done using. Having a place to bring a lot of the items you’re getting rid of also makes the entire process easier. Find what works for you…
I can’t imagine starting this process if you haven’t done it before. I have very little to go through & it’s still an overwhelming day, but it’s worth it. If you’re a newb, take it room by room. Even closet by closet. Do one this Saturday & another one next Saturday, eventually you’ll get there & your living space will have never felt better! Throw on Michael Buble station from Pandora, pour a glass of wine & get to work. I’m telling you, it’s life changing & one of the most rewarding experiences I can share with you. HA!
As follow up, I’ll need a report card from you. I would like an A for excellent, impeccable, everything-serves-a-purpose room & an F for I’m hoarding but am scheduling with my therapist. I would like a letter grade for each room you go through. I’m holding you accountable! And I’m not a fan of excuses.
Woofta! Here’s to a new week & a start to the most loving month – February. Yes to big ass hearts & big asses, pounds of chocolate, extra kissing & hugs, romantic dinners & spreading the love – WE FREAKING NEED FEBRUARY THIS YEAR.
Now, more than ever, please remember to be extra thoughtful to all the peeps. Just be thoughtful. That’s it. Nothing more. I think that’s easy enough for everyone. <3