October, October bring on October. A lot going on!
Kim Kardashian held at gun point in Paris? I hate hearing things like that because I start thinking – if she can get in that situation, so can anyone! She has body guards, I have a freaking doggie that’s afraid of people. I guess when it’s your time, it’s your time.
Recently, a lot going on around me. I feel like I need to stand completely still. Hold on to sweet Bernie & Wafiq for dear life… & not move.
Does that ever happen to you? So much movement & activity, the only thing you can do is try to be still. (I imagine that’s a little how the apocalypse will feel.)
You’re a little invested in each person’s difficulties & you take it on yourself, but also try not to because it’s important for you to keep it together for them. One day at a time is the best way to go.
Through all this, one thing I can’t stand is mean people. It sounds like something your 2nd grade teacher would say, but I notice myself finding that’s the best word I can find to describe people: “Don’t be mean little Bobby.” I find myself wanting to do less & less with other people because I don’t want to be around anyone that’s mean – to me or to anyone else. And shockingly that’s hard to find. When I do find nice people I appreciate them so much.
I think people are mean either because they’re selfish & are upset that any given situation isn’t going their way, so they lash out & act mean as a way to return their feelings.
The other reason I think people are mean is to defend themselves. Either their confidence, their lifestyle, their choices, their words, their actions, their moods…
Both reasons suck.
I keep telling myself to be as nice as possible to as many people as I can & hopefully that will rub off on them. Even when I’m around a group of mean people for example, I notice myself mumbling mean things under my breathe & I have to immediately remind myself to stop.
Staying away from mean people is the best way to handle it, because adding only makes things worse.
I will say, defending yourself is acceptable & different than being mean. My suggestion when defending yourself is to use facts & as little emotion as possible, otherwise mean things might projectile out.
Facts keep things unarguable.
Defending yourself is just as important as being kind, but being mean is a whole other ball game that I have no interest in getting tickets to.
One a lighter note – What’s going on in our house? I’ve been working to streamline my blog, try to focus it a little more. My goal is to have all the brand aspects, website accessibility, links, posts, social media, ect more functional by the end of the year. I feel like I worked this year to experiment a little (thank you to anyone still straggling along with me) to see what was comfortable, what worked, what didn’t… And next year I want a little better focus. So between now and January that’s what I’m working towards.
Wafiq, Bernice and our house is as happy of a home as it can be. We’re so happy to have it! I can’t express how much I live for little ways of decorating, visiting Home Goods, buying a new cooking tool, organizing and purging my own closet – it’s a dream.
How’s everyone else doing? I’m excited because this is the first year I’m exercising my right to vote! WOOT WOOT! Felling more American than ever.
Have a relaxed day, be kind, and extra thoughtful.